Hi guys... I have a problem here.. usually I frequent a bar, and the average age there is arround 17-20 years old.

Why I go there?
because i found people I really like, they are cool, fiendly, open minded, intelligent, and women are not the typical bitches with no brain.

my problem here is the age... although they are really open minded people, there are some attitudes that shows their age... I went to other bigger clubs of people of my age, there are plenty of brain dead women...

it's really difficult to find the perfect one, I think that doesn't even exists...

I found girls of my age to be really egocentric, arrogant and resentful about past relationships...

so what should i do? anyone had a GF with that age difference?

Hey man. This is all up to you. You have the choice to choose who you want to date. And you can pick from 18 to 40.

I am 26 and for the last two years I've dated 4 and sarged lots of 19year olds (I don't go bellow 19). It was fun for me since girls of my age seemed too serious for me. Talk with them was like "I have to finish my studies, It's hard to find a job here..." and things like that. those young girls were fresh and innocent. And I probably didn't have the right inner game to get a quality 25 year old.

Nowdays, those 18/19 year olds are no challenge for me what so ever. I game them, but just for fun, I don't close them. I find that my best match is 23/24 college girl. Girl who is finishing her studies, has a sport/hobbie she is really dedicated to, has experience with dating, and knows what she wants in a guy and in life.

Comment about braid dead women is so true, and it is not easy to find an amazing girl. But once you do, you'll forget right away about those 1000 that sucked and it will be worth the effort.

BR,
Defy

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You're good man. I'm in my mid 30's. I normally date girls 10 or so years younger than me (23-26) and have been known, on occasion, to close younger than that. Just keep it above 18, and you're fine.

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You need to change your mentality. Stop worrying about trying to get a Girlfriend. If your sleeping with less then 5 women right now, getting a girlfriend should not be your concern. Your concern should be to get 5 girls your sleeping with. From there, screen them all and choose the one you want.

This will make no sense to you until you experience it. Even if your hooking up with 0 women, it will change your behavior.

Deal with the age difference, mention it but as an IOD. Like, wow you're young. You have to disqualify her before she does.

Show you are also comfortable with people of your age if possible, because younger girls can rightfully assume you are chasing them because girls your age give you trouble.

Defy, i feel ya man, thats exactly what is happening to me

Hank Panky thanks dude!

0uch, well... since i break up with mi ex girfriend about 1.3 years I've been with 5 different girls (fclosed) and a lot more kclosed.. I know its not a lot, but with each one of them I was for about 3 months, without being her boyfriend... and then they "fall in love" or want a relationship and i don't, and then they don't want to be with me anymore...
I have done a lot of jelausy plotline, since I'm going always to the same place, I have some good status there. One time there were 5 different girls (that I kclosed) at the same time in the same place chatting with me (the palce is really small) it was the most funniest experience ever...
but yeah, probably I can do much better than 5 fclose in 1.3 year :S
the problem is, I started to feel lonely, I live alone in my own apartment, and maybe I'm in age to get a new girlfriend...

MacNulty, yeah I dont have problems with girls with my age.. but for some reason I find them boring.. maybe I'm not mature enough? this bothers me a lot, because I should be with people of my age... but they are so sucked up by the system, "the matrix" like brenth smith like to call it


PS: please sorry for my bad english, i wish i could express myself better

I feel ya, I also enjoy flirting with younger females more, it's not a maturity issue I think, it's just that they are still looking for the fun side of life and girls our age tend to expect so much right away due to all their friends settling down or having babies.

I'm the opposite to you guys.

I'm 26 but find that older women (around 30) are my preference. They generally have their shit in order and are in a similar state of mind to myself. I like going out and getting drunk but not every weekend. Younger girls are still in that phase and the scene annoys me a bit. Id much rather go to a few fancy bars instead of clubs.

Plus they have few sexual hang ups.

Horny as hell

Will own a car

Have more money to do stuff

Less mood swings

problem is that girls around that age want to have children, etc, and I don't.. not until i have 35 or so... they suck your life... they get serious, they want to go dinner, go to watch movies, those kind of boring stuff... if you hate the system, like if you are an anarchist, you're immature in their eyes (although I have a VERY good job, i live alone, i have my own car)... but well, you have to be like the system's standard to be "mature"

Girls at that age do want a lot of things but a lot of it is fluff or more talk and nothing more. So I would take it with a grain of salt.
What accounts for maturity differs for people and you also have to realize there are different types of immaturity/maturity. Ya you can have you live in order which shows maturity but then you can be easily emotional immature at the same time.