I hate this phone-text game $hit...I do, but I know it's a necessary evil, and the younger the girl the more the games, so lets get started and maybe I can get some help...

First off I'm about 10 years older than the girl and she's a junior in college...I look like I'm 25 but she knows I'm older...

Long story kinda short, I met her at a Wutang concert, then one of her school buddies pulled her off of me at the end of the night so I thought I would never see her again...Luck shined on me and about 3 weeks later I caught up with her at a convention...She was hot as hell just as I remembered and she was totally in to me, because she knows I'm an older cat, and young college chicks love that, and we had lots in common....

Anyways, we go out the next week, totally connect to the point we're finishing each others sentences..Really great time...She comes over to my house after the date and we makeout like allnight long..the girl has a little respect for herself (which I actually was diggin) because despite my advances she holds firm that she's just not gonna give it up easy, but she's biting my lip, licking my ears, stroking me with me clothes on, like everything else... We go at it pretty hard and she winds up sleeping over and not leaving til 2pm the next day...

I mean, I'm playing it like yeah I like you, but don't fall in love with me because I might hurt you...She's hugged up under the covers and shit with me like we've been married for 10 years or something...Hugging, inter-locking her thighs, spoooning, everything...Chick got me thinking she might be the one (although I'm not showing it)...

Now to the actual $hit...When she leaves she texts me later that night (Superbowl Sunday), telling me how great a night she had and can't wait for more...My text bank was full so I didn't even get the message until the next day, but I texted her back, "Cool, so glad you had fun"...

I proceed to go 2 days without contact with her, just because I'm a busy cat...Then yesterday I text her a playful text asking her how good is her memory, and to tell me what was on the shirt I was wearing, if she gets it wrong she has to buy me dinner...So we text back and forth, and then I finally call her and argue her about how she lost the game and tell her that I wanna go out with her Friday night... She says sure we can go out, but maybe Saturday instead of Friday..I tell her no we gotta go out Friday (Cause I got some free tickets from a buddy to something she might like)...She's like I have this Valentine party at school... (In my mind I'm like f**k dat I'm not going to that, it ain't that type of party yet) So I hop on the elevator and tell her I'll call her after 8pm TO GIVE HER THE DATE DETAILS because the call is gonna cut off...SHe's like cool...

So I call her after 8 and she doesn't answer my call, and she hasn't called me back since (It's been 25 hrs)...Now the only reason I'm pissed is because the week before we ever went out she was hard to get a hold of after 8, but that's when I'm just settling in after working out...I called her twice that first week, and made it clear to her that I can only really talk after like 8 on weekdays, so SHE KNOWS THIS...Reiterated this $hit in person (Told me it was cool to call her after 8 on this particular situation)...So I know she is purposely ignoring my call trying to make me call her twice in a row, but I refuse to do it!

Truth is, I dig the chick...I WANT the damn chick, but I can't let this little college chick make it like I'm chasing her cause if I call again or text and she doesn't respond she's got my a$$...I also have these tickets and I'm gonna waste that $hit if I don't get in touch with her...So I'm not sure what to do...

DO I call her again risking the entire upper hand i achieved by how she was basically worshiping me on our date, or should I punish her because she knows I told her I wanted to go out with her this weekend and she knows I called her phone yet she hasn't called me back yet?

That's why I hate this $hit...I thought for once I met somebody I could be myself with, but even a chick I mesh with this much, still wants to play this game, and me being the older cat I don't think I can succumb to this...

Opinions? Advice? Hate for posting this loooong $hit??

Thanx...

I would send one more text, saying something about how you're sorry about not getting back to her, like you were the one not responding, and tell her your hanging with some friends at whatever 'cool' bar, say you and the group decided it would be ok if she joins you.

If you get a response your back in the game.
If you dont get a response, do a total shut out by deleting her number as to not be tempted to be needy - If she is into you as it sounds that she is, after a few days of silence she will fear that she has lost you and like reinitiate with you.

My "2 text/call" rule has saved me a lot of thinking and has a fairly high success rate for me.

Hope this helps

But what if she says "Ok I'll come join you guys..." Then what? Cause I'm at home watching the ballgame^^...

ALso please, anyone else chime in...I got B-Ball tickets 2moro and I do not wanna have to give them away..I need to act fast...

How bout:

"Hey sorry for not getting back at you...Me and some work-friends are at this new Jazz club in the JW Marriott...

Still looking forward to hooking up 2moro..."

Too $hitty?

Edit: On second thought, this is very $hitty...Too many details make me imagine her thinking "Why is this dude telling me all this?" Makes me low status that I have to let her know details like that...Yeah, I might just ignore her...

actually get a few friends together, at least 1 female and the group invite will work. Alternatively you can just call out her on her stupid games and tell her you are done with it.

The fact youre posting looking for advice shows youve lost control of the situation, so youre seeking elsewhere for help... Theres a good chance youve blown it, but all you can do is play it cool - which im hoping you can do.

10 years is a lot dude, but im assuming shes of legal age... so rightio.
She TOLD you she has something on and cant do it. Why would you push it and be so arrogant? Of course she is gonna rather go to a Valentines party with all her friends over an old dude she barely knows... shes young dude. accept that.
I think this is because she already told you she cant do the date. Why would she want to hear you demand it again and for her to have to feel awkward to say no.
go with a friend? why would you wanna: ??
Youre way too over invested. see you have put this whole thing on a pedestal as if its this ONE TIME ONLY THING and it is so important. Shes pretty much already beaten you at your own little 'game' and damn it was easy - I think you got some personal dependency issues to sort out and I dont really see this working. Shes young, immature. If you got problems with this after 1 date, then you better get used to it...

Simple. Dont contact her again until she initiates. She cant do Friday - she told you. When she contacts again, do another day.

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hmmm, just saw this now. That one would be ok, but would be much better if it could be an invite for her to come hang out with your cool crowd.

Still looking forward to hooking up 2moro.. - sounds like she is allowing you to be with her instead of the other way around.

I thought she made it clear she cant do tomorrow? (If thats Friday where you live)

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@Breaking Bad She's 22, I'm 32...Also you've misconstrued this...I said that I asked her to go out Friday, and her response was that maybe saturday we could, but saturday is the same day as her Valentine's dance, SO it makes me think she wants me to go to that with her (Which ain't happening)...Her Friday night is free, so that's why I'm like WTF?

But I did kinda say, "naaah it's gootta be Friday", after she briefly mentioned this, although playfully...

Inlight of this, what's your advice...Less condescending please^^, I mean no one would be here if we knew what to do in every instance...but thanx...

oh I got it wrong! yea no need to try calling again man. just go with a buddy. It'd be more attractive to not go with her now, because it shows you dont wait around for a girl and makes her feel she missed her chance. Id text her to say 'you're taking your mate instead now because she didnt answer. maybe see her some other time'

and leave it at that.

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You could always just go to the lame valentine's day dance and get a good grind session in.

@TylerW - Dude, I am not about to be some 32 year old dude chilling in the student union next to a Chick-Fi-lay waiting on this girl at a V-day dance when we're not supposed to be tight like that yet...

@Breaking Bad -

My sister was telling me something similiar, like give her the OPTION to get intouch with you, while letting her know that you're going on about your business regardless...

Also, I never told her about the B-Ball tickets, I just kinda hinted so I could surprise her, so how do you think I should text her back now:

Wzup (her name), was gonna take you to this game tonight but you never called me back so I'm taking a buddy...Maybe we'll do something later this weekend, peace...

-Or-

Wzup (her name) let me know if you still wanna hang out...I'm getting into shit all weekend so holla...

-Or-

Wzup (her name) had something cool planned tonight, but you blew it...Maybe do something later this weekend, let me know, peace...

-Or-

A better suggestion??

this is by far the best of the lot, i wouldnt use the others.

btw: if she bites and says, oh damn I wouldve gone! dont cave in. once you decide shes missed out, shes missed out. Dont back track just for her.

goodluck!

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Alright dude, I'm gonna trust random dude on the internet^^ and text her this 2moro morning...I'm not gonna lie man, this chick is hot as hell which is why I guess I'm becoming a tad unglued which is unlike me...

She's half Asian//half Dominican..SO you can only imagine the tropical island mixed drink look she's pouring in my cup...LOL, to do as much as I did with her last week and not hit, that be too much to take...

Alright then...Bite b!tch ;P...

One last question before I hit the hay...If she comes back with something like "Oh I couldn't go out tonight anyway or something," then what?