Hey guys heres another advice seeking question...so I started kinda seeing this chick everythings going great. So far I made it to first base with her and she seems really into me. This past weekend I met up with her at a bar and I was even talking to her several hours prior to that. Then when I got there she was distant and acting weird. I left kinda pissed off. She made up some excuse the next day and still hitting me up like shes all into me. But I sense somethings not right. Then today I finally got it out of her. She told me that she's confused and just wanna be alone and not ready for any kinda of relationship blah, blah, blah. I mean talking about a change of heart overnight!
So I'm wondering what/how did I do wrong here and how can I turn the table...im up for the challenge on getting her back on the same track if I haven't wreck this thing already...thanks always....

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It doesn't really matter what you did, and we probably couldn't tell you anyway since there's no way you can give us every single detail about your evening in order to reveal the problem to begin with.

A few points of interest:

1) Never show her you're upset by this kind of thing. If you can act like you don't care at all, that's great.

2) Cut all contact until she contacts you first. Even then, stay kind of distant for a bit until she "wins" you back.

3) Women who say they're not ready for a relationship often have another guy in the pipeline as well. This is why it's important not to become needy because that will only push her toward the other guy instead of you.

4) Women do this hot and cold shit all the time. An alternative reason to why she might have done this is due to "buyer's remorse". It sounds like the two of you are pretty young (no offense if you're not, but I'd guess 16 or so?), so making out might be a big deal to her and now she's second-guessing everything.

Snarg, excellent post! I think he's right. Cut the contact, you don't have to completely cut off contact, but at least cut it back...let her come to you. She's probably used to getting attention from you and will start feel strange when she's not getting it. If you can start chatting up another female, all the better. Especially if she sees it. Now, I'm not saying to dry hump some other woman in front of her, just be seen talking with one. She'll wonder what the nature of that relationship is. Women are very susceptible to jealousy.

Awesome guys, thanks for the reply its exactly what I have in mind...thanks a bunch =)

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"Sensual excess drives out pity in man." ~ The Marquis de Sade