Hey guys, I am sort of new to this forum, so bare with me. I am a University student now, and I have never been in a relationship before. I am not exactly sure how to get a girlfriend yet though. I know some of the antics are pretty obvious(you ask the girl out). I usually have no trouble with getting a girl to hook up with me or something like that, but the problem is, whenever I meet a girl, I never seem to think about wanting to date her or what qualities about her I might like in a girlfriend. I almost always think about someone I meet as a friend or a possible hook up/one night stand or something. Has anyone ever had this problem before or can possibly give some sound advice? I just think it would be weird to not have much experience with relationships until after college.

I've found that giving girls orgasms is a good way to start. Go do that.

Let relationships develop naturally. Have fun with girls, hookups, makeouts, or just random dates, with more girls at once if you can manage it. If you find someone you really like, then you can try spending more time with her only, if you want.

Don't fixate on relationships just because you think you want one, or because "many others I know had one or two before".

Thanks guys, all of this is great. I agree with the idea of not actually pursuing a relationship, and letting something like that develop naturally. In the next part of this post, I will try my best to not seem weird though. The truth is that well, I have rarely actually wanted a girlfriend until now. I used to think that the idea of a relationship was very bridling, and loved to just not be limited to a particular girl or something like that. Many people would agree with me that hooking up with random girls is probably better. However, lately, I have noticed that people in a relationship seem to have a profound, vivid, or intimate sense of belonging. Right now, studying takes pretty much all my time at school, yet I sort of long for something like that you know. I guess the main issue is that I am still now sure about what I want in a relationship. People always say you should date a girl you like being with. However, I am just very puzzled by that statement. When I meet a girl, I rarely associate her as somebody I might be in a relationship with. I usually think, oh she might be cool to hang out with, or oh she's pretty hot. What I am trying to ask I guess, is how to know when to pursue a relationship with a girl. I hope this makes at least a little sense, but I am not sure it does at all. Apologies, long post, and Thanks!

Maybe this has already been said, but I really believe you can't get a girlfriend by looking for a girlfriend. If you ask a girl to be your girlfriend, it almost always ends badly. You should make her want to be with you by not forcing the issue. Trust me, sooner or later, she'll want to have the "where is this going/what are we doing" talk anyway. That's when you'll know she wants you to be her boyfriend. Don't ask her, wait it out, make her ask you!

weird that you face these problems but are able to get laid, usually I find if you sleep with a girl and hang out with her more then twice a week, and continue sleeping with her, she will just eventually try to get you to be her boyfriend and you don't really have to do anything besides continue having sex with her