I find the bar scene really difficult as a noob...



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PostPosted: Sun Feb 12, 2012 2:07 am 
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Hey guys,

So basically when I go to a bar alone, I find it rediculously difficult to do anything. I even find it awkward to figure out where to stand etc.

It's odd though, cause just last night on the way TO the bar, I get talking to a girl on the first bus I got on, hung out with her at the exchange stop and took up a beer she offered me, got on the same bus going downtown to where all the bars etc. are, and by the end of the bus ride ended up kissing her. (keep in mind she was obviously tipsy and we drank a beer on the bus lol)

Then I get to the bar...

Heres what it seems like from my perception (now obviously the key is confidence etc., but if someone could give me the rundown on how things SHOULD/usually go so I have some idea of what to expect/do that would be helpful. Ideally one would be able to just walk up to any table even if friend groups are talking and just introduce themselves or something, but this seems almost impossible right now, I need to work my way up.

I feel like my inner game is good when actually ENGAGED in conversation in a neutral environment (people standing around in conversation that I can jump into easily) or even better when alone (ex. chatting with girls outside of bars seems somewhat easy now), the only difficult part is the very first part trying to find something to comment on to get a conversation rolling.

But for now it's like:

-I walk in a bar (the bars around here at least) all I see are people seated at tables talking to their little social circle or whoever they came with. Right then and there I'm like "well damn, how the fuck am I supposed to engage like this"

So I walk around the bar a bit, I see a bunch of dudes playing pool, but don't want to be one of those guys. I walk around and see a small, long, tight corner of the bar where theres more super crowded tables and people standing around (mostly guys surrounding a few girls).

How do bar pickups usually go? Do you just wait until you see a girl sitting alone or something? I saw one girl who was probably only like a 5 or 6 sitting alone but wasn't attracted to her (I know this sounds like an excuse, and I agree I should have at least tried to flex my PU skills even if she wasn't attractive), she was the only opening I saw for ANYTHING for me to have confidence to approach, since tables seem to be the bane of me approaching.

And yeah, the bar scene is relatively new for me, the night I'm talking about I was originally going to see friends, but I ordered one beer, realized they got kicked out for fighting after taking like 2 sips, and I got stuck there alone, finished my beer, browsed for any way to practice PU (which I mentioned my thoughts above) and just peaced.

I don't want alcohol to be a crutch for confidence, and figured one beer should be enough.

Bars seem to be rough in the beginning to start, let alone being new to the bar scene without PU even involved in the picture


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 12:12 pm 
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Hey!
While doing nightgame, you have to be more self conscious about your body since body language is the key for night game, the same with your eye contact.. the way you move is extremely important. Everything has to go smoother, during nightgame even the way you hold your beer say something about you.

The perception you have abour yourself is extremely important as well, so you can try everything , the best line you want that if you don't feel comfortable it's not gonna work.

Here you have some tips that can help you out.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Su7ok6dJ ... XbE65DvGJu

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 13, 2012 6:47 pm 
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If your not use to going to bar, keep going. You have to get use to the environment.

I don't go out alone much. Once in awhile when I just feel like grabbing a drink and not sarging. I just chill at the bar drinking. Funny enough, I have had girls come up to me and start conversation.


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