ok so I was out on friday night for a 21st and seen this really cute redhead sitting solo waiting for her freinds (they were at the bar).
I was out teaching my freind so I told him to aproach her, he made up an excuse saying he liked the barmaid so I went for it! Ive been picking up girls for over a year now and have learnt that confidence is my secret weapon.
so when I approached her solo I think I caught her off guard a lil I opened slightly direct asking why "a cute girl is sitting by herself in the corner?" when I realised she was irish I got pretty hooked and am struggling not to get obsessed.
we then went on to talk about our work and studys keeping consistent eye contact!

I gave her a little playful stick saying she came off as the quiet girl who stays in and knits with her gran then we played some board games that the bar had. I got on great with her freinds and 20 mins in still aint had to buy a girl a drink (looking good).
after we were done playing I had minor kino going on (high 5s and arm over shoulder) she decided to move on to another bar I had to catch up with my freind so I just said "oh okay then number?" so we swapped and I text her the next day asking how her saturdays going then asked what her plans for the night were, she said she didnt know what she was doing and I told her to text me when she made her mind up and 2 hours later she text saying she was free and let her know what I want to do?
this surprised never did I think things would move so fast with a nervous girl but the problem is I know nothing about dates! am a night game pro I move fast and never have the same girl twice. so heres the questions:

valentines day is pretty near if I take her out then is it coming off too strong for a first date?
I'm sick and tired of cinema dates what other good ideas are there? I think a meal is too much for a first date.
is there anyway to stop oneitis? I have 2 ex's that I text instead most of the time so I dont come on too strong with her.
last but not least how to build sexual tension? I think I'll use the escalation ladder but if theres anything else you guys have it might help.
thanks for reading
sorry for the length

_________________
I think that every successful man should have 3 women at his funeral. One that's crying, one that's smiling and one that's buying things on her laptop with his will.

you seem on a good path. though a bit undecisive with you texts. i dont care what her plans are. i fit her into my plans. also i never take girls on dates on saturdays. i dont want girls who dont have plans for friday and saturday nights. weeksdays are for dates. make it light and slow paced, i know thats not really your style, but keep it light and fun. i like to take them to this mall thats near me, its huge and its got tons if interesting stuff. dont do valentine day thing. as for the sexual tension, this will not be like in the night club. don't worry about sexual tension. make it fun. this is what some girl told me recenty and it kinda changed my perspective a little. she told me that last guy she has been with, they kissed on the 7th day. she also hated that i pushed for the makeout in the club. first i thought she was crazy. but then she told me about the buillt tension during those 7 dates, it started to make sence. kiss and sex are relief of that tension, and tension is whats powerful. just enjoy your time with her, if you got good with club gaming, youll get good with dates as well.

_________________
I have to return some videotapes...

wow thanks alot defy in all honesty I've been looking through the forum and judging by the advice you give I was hoping it would be you lol you know when to be harsh and dont fuck about, much appreciated.
on to the girl wednsdays are student nights here so the drinks are pretty cheap and I know a great bar where all the footballers go do you think I should just go with my instinct? I mean shes a goodtime but dont want it to look like I'm drinking her into bed.

_________________
I think that every successful man should have 3 women at his funeral. One that's crying, one that's smiling and one that's buying things on her laptop with his will.

thanks. i like this forum and sharing ideas, but my work suffered today because of this forum.
i am not sure what you mean about your instinct. every instinct i use to have about girls was wrong. i am a big believer of learning. you'll learn a lot from this date.
This is wrong thinking. I honestly don't care what she thinks. Also don't have high expectations. Just see how it goes. If the vibe is good, if you like her and in that moment feel like you want to fuck her, just push it. Don't be like all prepared and shit. Enjoy the moment and see where it will take you both.

_________________
I have to return some videotapes...