Hey guys, so i was in this cllub last night with a couple of my sisters mates and one male friend (dont know if it makes a difference), It was pretty dark and to loud to really speak to people (i hate not being able to talk to girls and build rapport)

There were so many girls in there looking like they were just waiting to be danced with.

I didn't want to look like a creep and just grab one so i didnt do anything Total AFC i know.

Any suggestions???

Aaaah i've been in that situation... trick is, well your with a group of girls so just take them and dance with them. Women will then see your accepted by women and they will want to dance with you, when you get an IOI of any of them then dance near them.

After a few minutes of dancing with the girl you don't know if you still feel the spark then grab her by the hand, go into a dark corner and make out with her... that's the direct route.

If you are a shy nerd like quite a few of us are just be cheeky. Carry a piece of paper on you and write 'Hey ' on it and see what happens. If she waves or mimes hey back then that's an IOI and you can jokingly do sign language that would move them into an area where you can talk.

Hope i've helped bud.

This is the part that's messing up your game. Caring what others think of you. Forums, and reading pick up material will only take you 10% of the way. The rest is accepting failure and learning from it.

I have crashed and burn so many times. It was accepting those failure and learning from it. Not letting it bring me down. Not only will it teach you what not to do, but it will increase your inner game like nothing out there.

In your case, loud clubs are bad for conversation. 2 ways you could have done is just be up front and ask the girl to dance, or just go in middle of the dance floor, start dancing and have fun. If you truly are having fun, girls will just come up to you and start dancing.

Thanks for the Replys guys, I will have to look out for some IOI's and be more direct, just overcoming AA Takes a while, but i fully understand that The more you do the lest silly you will feel.

But mainly i shouldnt let the thought of pulling the whole time mess up my night, just enjoy myself more

Cheers all advice is gratefully accepted

Be self amusing. When you forget/don't give a fuck what others think of you ... then they will watch you because you are having fun. Have fun for your self not for others = self amusing. Basically, when you are trying to impress you are needy. You are sucking value. But when you don't give a fuck what others think of you and be self amusing ... then you are always providing value.

I do the most random dances ever ... I do the macarana, I do piece sign fingers hovering over my eyes, the Carlton dance, I form guns with my hands and shoot imaginary bullets to the beat. ... I find this dancing soo funny and silly ... girls see me having fun and being silly and COMFORTABLE and RELAXED that people are watching me. I do this dances even on an empty dance floor ... Basically, what they see is that I'm in my own movie.... My favorite is when girls form their circle and dance and I would jump in the middle and dance with each girl individually ... tahahha ... and they love it! When you are self amusing girls will come to you even!

On or off the dance floor.
First be self amusing (so only good emotions are coming out of you) then you can go up to girls make heavy eye contact, grab them by the waist and pull her close to you. You will be totally invading her personal space ... so can't half ass this. If you are comfortable and relaxed like you do this all the time and this is how you interact with girls ... then she will be heavily attracted to you. Now since you are so close to each other ... you can talk and you guys will be able to hear each other.

You can also go directly to the girl and point at her, make eye contact, then bring her close to you ... again invading her space ... just be comfy and relax and non reactive to what ever they say ... talk ....

Summary: Be self amusing, comfortable and relax, open hard, eye contact.

To be able to relax and comfy of doing this takes practice. Your brain need proofs not promises. Even though you know how to do this you need to actually get experiences and proofs for your brain that this is do able. The more you do this and see it's do able ... you will be comfy and relaxed ^_^.

Sincerely,

Donston

How do You go to confident to enjoying yourself... from self concious and feeling silly

You have to come to the realization that nobody in the club is really paying attention to you. The person passing the harshest judgement is yourself. I understand it can be quite difficult to start opening girls, but once you get over that initial hump you'll probably find that all of your fears were there for no reason. Instead of going in with the mindset that rejection is a bad thing, go in looking for rejection to start with. You have to be thinking, that the first 10 girls can say no, and it's not a problem for you, because the 11th will be the girl of your dreams.

Just keep at it. Some nights will be horrible, it happens to everyone. Last night I was rejected on the first girl, got into my own head and ended up having a bad time. However on Friday night I was on fire, I made out with more than one girl, and got a few numbers to boot. I don't beat myself up over Saturday night, instead I see the entire weekend overall as a win.