Ok first off i was a nice guy an i think i went a bit to much to the dickhead side talking to girls like shit espically when pissed up but now im starting to think i can actually be a nice guy again ... just not be a pushover an let them walk all over me.
an they actually prefere this over the badboys out there.

My next one i think i have realised if your happy there happy if your sad there sad so is this sort of say i meet a girl an im happy with myself an confident after the interaction will she go to her girl mates an say yes he may not be the best lookin lad but he just makes me feel happy.

Maybe im way off here but if i was reserved/shy after the interaction would she go to her friends an say he makes me feel shy ??

Another one confidence if im confident will it make her feel confident

I have all this in my head but i find it so hard to put into words hopefully someone can put me on the right path cheers

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Whatever You've been reading has poisoned your mind extremely hard.

Stop changing your own personality, but get to learn yourself untill you breach the maximum potential of your capabilities.

Are you a good dancer? Then dance
Are you a good talker? Then talk
Are you energetic? Then so be it.

The point is, be Yourself, and try to refine yourself, personality is a perfect guidelines to meet people of your own. If you're gonna act differently, the friends and girlfriends your gonna meet are possibly going to be the same, and is that truely the thing you want?

That's the good part about humans, we are all very different, and those who are capable of showing their differences, will be most loved.

I was like You aswell, I saw the cool guys getting girls, so I acted cool, it scared girls away because it wasn't natural.

I loved dancing, but I never did so because I thought people would laugh.

Now I take the entire floor, dance like there's no tommorow, I make sarcastic jokes, I chase my dreams and share my thoughts more frequently then I used too and I'm having a whole lot of succes.

1) Confidence
2) Being yourself
3) Study the basics of interaction

There You go.

maybe you are correct but i have heard lots of people talking about this the main thing in pick up is she feels what your feeling.

dont change your personality well before pua i could get girls yes but i couldnt keep them i was a walkover so i had to change my personality.

so what do you do if your a bad talker dont talk bad dancer dont dance ?

i think you are wrong there if im a bad dancer and i am i will still dance
because i dont care what people think about me

Its easy to sit there an say be yourself but what if you dont no if yourself is good enough iv saw some super confident guys who are definatley themselves but there classed as weirdos and no one talks to them except me when im out.

im glad for your input but i think you are wrong thanks for your advice

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You do not understand what I'm trying to deliver to You.

Use what skills You have, I gave you examples, I'm pretty sure there are things You are good at.

I'm talking in general about social skills, just as much as physical skills.

You should care what people think though, because they will think differently then You do, You cant just say, I'm not gonna brush my teeth, wash my hair cause I dont give a shit what people think.

Tell me a few examples of what You're good at, maybe I need more information about you first.

Yes, people will be influenced by the way you are, so it's important to stay as natural as possible, but try to study the science of human responses. Know what emotion to trigger and when.

Pbblade was getting onto it in his response to this. Dancing and talking are social SKILLS. They take work and development to do them correctly, being bad at these skills should only be more motivation to practice them. (Practicing dancing will make you a much better dancer, but you can also get away with just having fun on the dance floor. If you can just have fun while in conversation too, you'll do well, even if you're a "bad talker")

A lot of guys tip to the douchebag side when they first start. I was lucky to sort of skip that phase, but I know it well. You don't need to be dominant, you need to be a man. A real man is nice to people, confident, knows his own value, and doesn't take shit from people. He also doesn't lose his temper, or get flustered and make mistakes. He stays calm, stays positive, and succeeds.

Stay confident Stay yourself