Hi PUA forum,
This is my very first post here, and I could not think of a more appropriate community to post this to. What I've been trying to sort out in my head is how the mind of a certain type of girl works.

This type of girl is like the energizer bunny (probably so in bed, as well), in every sense. She keeps running around from person to person and just feeding off everyone's energy. She appears to be on drugs, some sort of uppers, but she may easily not be - probably is not. She has shown you clear attention, but you don't know how to hold it, nor does it seem feasible when she's running around from person to person (making jokes, smoking, getting drinks, etc). This can be in a party or bar setting, but the thing is - it's not a one time thing - it's how such girls act. And they aren't not necessarily sluts.

But maybe they can be? Personally, I know at least 3 such girls. One of them, I slept with. But now she's been mostly ignoring me. I happen to have a small obsession with her and the more it progresses, the deeper hole I seem to dig myself into.

I am not a pick up artist, in case it's not clear yet. I have read some PUA materials, listened to some tapes, out of mere fascination, more than anything. And I can say that at the very least, familiarizing myself with PUA materials has made me quite a bit more confident. I'm super late into all of this - I'm 23 now. To me, the inner workings of the female mind can be almost incomprehensible - at least the ones' who I'm after.

The ones I'm not after, however, are stupid, annoying, skanky girls, or boring girls. So I guess I'm left with the crazy, quirky ones. But they don't operate by anything concrete..

So, PUA forumites, if you have any particular insights, I'd be very interested to hear them.

It's never to late!

But, the reason why the girl you slept with is ignoring you now is because you are caring. The fact that you are trying to figure out why these girls are acting the way they are acting is like you care or want to know how to impress them. But, let me ask you a question ... do you think that trying to impress girls or seeking some sort of validation or caring how they think of you ... a good thing? Or does it sound like a needy douche bag guy just like every guy out there?

If you really want to attract these super energetic A.D.D energize bunny girls to you ... stop caring what they are thinking, stop trying to impress them, instead only care for the number one person in the world. Which is you! So instead of thinking of what these girls are thinking, or thinking of ways to try to impress them, or thinking of ways to try to entertain them, try think of ways to entertain yourself, do things that are self amusing to yourself! Do things for your self ... then watch the girls come to you! Girls will see you having fun and they will come to you because they want to have fun to. It's very ironic how not trying to impress will impress girls. This is the paradigms of PUA!

So needy is bad right? How do you counter being non needy? Having an abundance mentality that you do not fear rejection because there will be more girls to interact with. Stop putting values like caring to have sexs, or caring about rejection, or hoping that you impress them ... this is a LOWER STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS ... which is very chode like!

haha sorry for the rant ... kinda can't sleep cause I just went out gaming and unable to sleep because of all the awesome evidence I gave my brain of the night.

Summary:

1) Stop caring of what the girls are thinking.
2) Only care about your self!
3) Self amusing = suck girls into you reality.
4) Abundance mind set = anti needy chode guy.
5) It is never to late to go learn this stuff!

Sincerely,

Donston!

Thanks for the great insights, Donston. I know I need to get into the mindset of abundance, and then my perceived value would naturally increase. Nor would I care if some chick did not care for me if I had all these other choices.

I've been obsessing about particular girls way too much and it has been a weakness of mine. At the same time, I've been too vain to go for much more easily approachable targets.

It is without a doubt true that as soon as you show some girl active interest, you are just about screwed. I know this to be true, but pulling it off is just counter-intuitive every time.

Oh well, it's a learning experience for me. Unchoding myself is quite the undertaking. I'm not sure if I will necessary get there. But it's at least been interesting so far.

sort of sounds like you are dealing with the female player
aka the attention vampire
aka the party girl

I would assume you see plenty of these girls on the party/club scene from the age of 16-24, they flirt with tons of guys, shit test like it is going out of style, and attract needy pussies because they generally show interest before the guy does to bait him into orbiting,

the practical strategy for these girls I have found is

-don't show too much interest in them, give them the best dose of attention you possibly can when you first meet them, when they know you are cool and value your attention, use it as your bargaining chip when they mis-behave

-the answer to these girls is never more attention, it is less attention after they know your attention is worth something

-if you want to keep these girls hooked sleep with other girls they know so the word gets around and they feel some form of anxiety to turn you into a boyfriend so they can have you all to themselves (absolutely do not brag about this yourself let the girls you sleep with brag about it but always keep your lips tight about who you get with), also sleeping with them multiple times without falling in love and becoming needy

-instead of trying to get her to get you to like her, leave her alone until she comes to you and is woundering why you don't like her, at this point keep her inbetween rejection and acceptance but never fully give her the validation of either

-when in person move things towards sex, if not in person don't give out your attention freely, only use it for invites not just to randomly give it out, and when you get flakes, withdraw attention completely until meetups

-worst thing you can do is become needy since these girls live in abundance and having a guy that does not is a turn off

good stuff pumpington.

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