Quote:
Alright i like. but should i jump to the " are you a sports player"? what would be some other openers like that?
Notice that the opener itself is just "Hey, I've seen you around..."
As long as you can get that off, the rest of the conversation can come naturally and fluidly.
The sports part is the cold read that follows. Cold reads can really open up a set. They show that you have some insight into her character, even if you're wrong. It gives her a topic and gets her talking about herself.
You can cold read on anything. "I was just talking to my Indian friend about curry. I can already tell you like spicy food, I have sixth sense for this kind of thing."
"I can't handle this Valentine's Day craziness. You're definitely the type of girl that would want chocolates on V-day. You're a high maintenance girlfriend, I can tell."
For a cold read, you need to assume some trait about her. If it's true, it's impressive that you picked up on it, if it's not, she'll hurry to prove you wrong. All you need is something to assume, and you can cold read. Try not to use a rehearsed one immediately on entering the set, something you come up with on the spot will be better. Those two above, I would not say immediately after my opener, but you could use them anywhere in the conversation.
It's a useful tool. Try to apply it in your own life.