Hey guys,

I'm not a complete noob, so I'm very well aware of the fact that conversation is very much about vibing...
meaning that whether you talk to a hottie or just ANYONE, it doesn't matter too much WHAT you say,
but rather HOW you say it and whether what you say is congruent with who you are and what you believe in.

Still, especially when you hit a girl in a bar, what are topics you would bring up
(topics YOU YOURSELF are enthusiastic about / topics that FASCINATE)?
I've been finding myself resorting to shallow Who-are-You, What-do-you-do,
How-old-are-you small-talk WAY too often lately, and I don't really even know why...
I guess at some point in the game you move backward instead of forward...
Not saying that this is all I got, it's just where some of the conversation seem
to get stuck when talking to a girl I've just met and approached lately (A REAL energy killer).

the hook lead system by kezia noble is great for having conversations when you struggle for things to talk about.

Basically she says, listen to what the woman is saying, listen for high quality words/subjects that you could start separate conversations about, and either respond with something related, perhaps tell a story using language that paints a vivid picture and full of emotion. or ask her about something she has said eg say "you mentioned you went to (country) that sounds really interesting... tell me more/3 things about it you enjoyed the most (command)

personally i try to use things I have done in my past that relate to what she is saying, as a good way to keep the conversation flowing. So travel, any funny/dramatic stories that allow me to talk enthusiastically.

Big on self improvement ... so I talk about that stuff. I watch lots of BBC documentary, super fascinating things ... so when I tell them to anyone they get fascinated. I talk about nonsense shit that I find funny ... lots of perverted stuff ... tahahah

Hoped that help ...

Sincerely,

Donston