Ok. I have a specific question. I'm getting good at approaches and building comfort, kino, escalating, etc in bar situations. But there are 2 situations that escape me.

1) There is a girl that I fell for in high school. Never got her . She became "the bar" blah blah blah blah.

I'd really like to get with her. If just once. Not out of disrespect, but to show her and myself that I HAVE changed and break past "the one that got a way". I think that will get me closer to chasing 10s and 11s. (She's a 9).

I contacted her again with the premade text about needing her to desperately answer a question, alot of sexual tension build up and ended with the question, "Yellow or purple?" Which use to be an inside joke.

SHE LOVED IT

We chatted for a bit texting back and forth. and i told her to follow up with me to let me know if she gets her promotion, and if she did id take her with me and some friends to go see Mayday Parade. She loved that too.

So like 5 days later, when the interview was suppose to happen the day before, I text her. She hadnt contacted me when it ended so I threw in a neg

"Hey 10 second Tom!" (She loved the 50 first dates movie) you forgot to tell me how the interview went. Don't leave me waiting. "

I got nothing back... the next day she posts on facebook to everyone that it went well and she'd be getting the promotion.

How do I reengage her after being ignored as such?

2) Attracted another 9 at a bar a week and a few days ago. Got her number, talking about piano lessons and how I wanted to learn. She WAS DEFINITELY throwing IOI's. I called her 2 days later and left a voicemail that was prearranged and close to the type listed on the forums. 2 days later i dropped a text. a few more days went by and i'd forgotten about it and she sent me a 2 page text about how her week had been crazy and she was gonna get on her schedule and let me know something.

I waited a day and texted her back on Monday saying that Thursday after 5p was good for me.

She called me yesterday, and asked if i was serious about the lessons. I said ya, though that's not really what i wanted to talk about. Got her address and found out she's on my block. Set up a time for 8p tonight for a free lesson.

I want to make sure there's sexual attraction and this doesn't just become "business". That's the reason I showed interest anyway. I need suggestions on this situation. Like I said, it's not a bar scene, so I dont have the needed experience.

Hit me up soon. I meet her in 3.5 hours.

drop the onenitus. i use to have one too. until i saw how ugly she turned out after high school. there are far better looking women out there

She's STILL hot.

who cares, you're holding her on a nonexistent pedestal that every other men out there hold her on. that's why you'll never get her.

Ok. If I ask about taking her off that pedestal and gaming her, can you help me out there, or are you sticking to your guns about moving on?

I WANT to game. I do. Not so much hung up as I am just wanting closure for myself. A happy ending that I feel will launch me further into "the game"

unbar her


if you want to game, forget her for now. you can come back to her when you're more experienced but unbarring her takes time. use that time to game other women.

True. Ive done this on multiple occasions and every one is like chasing a carrot on a stick. She knows you too well already. You will be incongruent with how she knows you and you will get all the shit in your body tested out of you. If you think you have a strong enough frame and direction, go for it. But in the end all your doing is wasting your time to satisfy your ego.

Ok SO I went to see the 9. The "piano lesson" went great. we laughed. she offered wine and showed me her home. She's much older. So this one will take work. But I wanna go for it

Made her laugh and threw in the kino. I know she saw the flirting because we talked about "being single" and she expressed the fact that she was enjoying the single life.

Bullshit.

But anyway should I continue? If so, any advice? Or should I mark it up and move on?

Either way I'll still be gaming!