So a girl I dated a few times and ended up choosing another girl over has been on my mind for weeks. I spoke to one of her friends and she said she may have trouble being attracted to somebody who did that to her. This being said she was happy with how respectful i was etc etc had a lot of fun with me etc etc
So I got mixed messages from her friend (who is more a friend of mine than hers)
Anyway yesterday I txtd the girl just a friendly txt and no reply. I'm thinking of goin into her work and doing the whole
"I understand if you don't want to trust me but if you were to give me a second chance I know I can prove to you that I am not the guy you think I am" ordeal.
Anyone got some pointers for me?

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

hears one, dont do that

by going to her place of work you are essentially cornering her, while it will let you speak you peace, it it could result in her feeling pressured to say things to prevent a scene and may cause a lot more harm than good.

I have kind of been in the situation recently myself with girls who I have not kept up the momentum with or cut lose and then texted again = then got no reply.

Part of the reason she could be doing it is to send a message to say 'you fucked me over - dont just expect me to reply to you, when you want me to'.
Its almost like a way of them trying to regain a bit of pride and teach you a lesson.

Your best bet IMHO is to call her and apologise... tell her sometimes in life, people make the wrong decisions etc.. and you did it etc.. Tell her you would just like to see her as a 'friend'. By friendzoning her, you again make yourself a challenge and it doesnt give off the vibe that you think you can have her at the snap of your finger.

Meet her,,, charm her.. (do the rest) and then take it from there..

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here to learn.. thats all.

Nobody likes to play 2nd fiddle. In all likelihood it's more important for her to protect her ego than give a guy who rejected her another shot. If you go into her work and approach her, you're in a sense empowering her to do the same unto you. I'd just as sooner leave it alone, or send a text (which involves little effort) just to feel things out and then decide on making any bold moves.

god fucking no safety, new girls man, you have it in you, less then 5 cold approaches, you know you are going to get some other hottie into you and you will be all in love with her just like these girls, cmon man, MORE GIRLS IS THE ANSWER, settle and girlfriend them into monogomy all you want, but play the game until you get to that point

PLAY THE GAME DUDE!!

this girl is done-zo, you rejected her, she is butthurt, gonna take some time for that sting to go away, girls are sensative, just hit her up 1 time a week maximum until she responds (if she ever does) and if she tells you to stop contacting her, do so but in the mean time, you gotta move onto new girls man