Hey guys would be really great if you could give me some real wisdom on what i'm about to say, as it's something thats been bothering me for a while

I'm very confused about this whole game thing..... it appears to me most human beings whether born genetically perfect or not have acceptance issues. Now i believe the theory that our main purpose is to replicate however from what i've read on the subject it seems no animal really lives that monogomousley including ourselves. But as humans we have the ability to examine our own thoughts and ask why and how and therefore aspire to the ideologies that are in movies and films...ok they might not be reality but they are what we would like the world to be like..... now what i want to know is perhaps not to the extreme displayed in films but can we follow those ideoligies to a lesser degree because it appears to me that living in the oppisites of them with things such as: deciet , mediocrity, selfishness and a whole load of others would be obserd, society wouldn't be able to function.
The reason to arriving at this particuar way of thinking is this: I'm at uni my games alright i've got cocky funny of to a tea and can back it up with some life experience stories , i've managed to dhv my social status at uni very well. Since reading the material i've chatted up alot of girls but what i've found is that i lose attraction from them, they're falling for my fake shit and in return they have nothing they can offer me, no substance , no opinion, and have the same acceptance issues that i had. However i was on a night out and i was with this group of girls i'd met for the first time... and i was being Mr sociable as usual and not paying any real attention to them individually but i got chatting to this one and i just got this really cool vibe from her.... she nothing special looks wise 7 out of 10 dfefinately wouldn't stand out in a crowd, i've had far better looking...so i gamed it and we had a pick-up competition amongst ourselves shed pick me a target of women and id chat them up... and vice versa it was really funnnn dhv'd it! i've met up with her once since....good date went well but im worried that i've got one-itus shes on my mind alot and i am singling her out as different but from what shes displayed so far she deserves it. Now i need to know whether i should be trying to cure it by gaming other girls or just go with it.... I've never had a serious relationship mainly because i dont think anyone should until they have resolved their issues and have accepted themselves but i feel ready now and i dont want to fuck around, i want a partnership, a team work where we drive each other to our ambition and raise great children because we live by these principles ( ok not now im far to young but one day). now these are ideals but i want to live them out, at my funeral i dont want people to say ye he had great social skills and could pick-up loadsa women id want them to say he was a great person he made a difference to other peoples lives was a good role model lived by strong moral principles, ( living with a means to the end) however i need you guys to tell me is this a dream that i need to give up on or is it possible and if it's possible can you live it happily because i realise the majority of the population dont.
Thanks

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Aristotle: We are what we repeatedly do. Therefore excellence is not an act but a habbit

So the age old question of committed, long term relationship vs. dating and playing the field.

The problem is chemistry.

Studies have shown that the way we feel when we're meeting new attractive women for the first time, or charging into new relationship territory, there are chemicals released in the brain that give us a sort of "high" that we really enjoy. Part of the hard wired animal in us always offering us a "hit" if we spread the proverbial seed.

Studies have also shown that when we more closely bond with a woman, over time, the brain tapers off the feel-good new relationship chemicals, and replaced them with a new steady stream of more subtle, but equally as strong chemicals that give us the feeling we've come to call "love", or "closeness".

We are, it would seem, nothing more than brain drug "addicts" We find ourselves in long term loving relationships, but when we see a new attractive woman, it's like a crack addict seeing a rock. And when we're flying high on new relationship energy (NRE), we feel there's something missing if we do not have the "love" chemicals.

Now of course it's not so simple as this, add human intellectual complexities to the mix and it becomes a real Lollapalooza.

This is why, IMHO, monogamy is counter to human nature. Why should it be that when you meet a woman, and fall in love, you should then forever forsake the thrill and joy of NRE?

That's one of the reasons my wife and I are polyamorous. But that's a whole new can of worms.

Best of luck in your quandary!

--Aeron

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Don't ever become a pessimist... a pessimist is correct oftener than an optimist, but an optimist has more fun, and neither can stop the march of events. --Heinlein