Well I met this girl through some friends, she would come to the bar with her friends. Eventually one night it was just my buddy(he was trying to close, but with no luck), her and myself. He left early and I pulled a few things I have learned here. At the end of the night she actually kissed me before I made my move. We exchange numbers and go our separate ways that evening.

We have been texting back and forth and gone out on a few dates. Well 5 days ago we go out and both get too drunk and we go back to her place where I proceed to F close, however I suffered midway from the whiskey dick. It was awkward after but she told me too stay the night there since I was in no shape to drive. I left very early that morning. Later that day she texts me saying we should go out again. So I make plans for the 2 days later. We go out have a few drinks and go back to her place to hang out. This time I finally F closed successfully twice that night.

So last night she invites me over and I go, we take some shots and watch a movie. She starts asking what I'm in this for and if I find her attractive(because she didn't think I did.) Not sure why she would think that after the 2nd time we had sex and she is easily an 8. Well she says its time to go to bed and takes me by the wrist into the bedroom. We are heavily making out and she starts asking about where I see this going. Whether I just want to be FB's or a relationship. She says she really likes me and enjoys hanging out with me. I say I enjoy hanging out, I like the way things are headed and would just like to see how things work out. After all the making out and feeling she says she is tired and going to bed.

I say alright and I am going to head home, she starts asking if I am mad... I am in no way mad, and reassure her that I am not.

I'm not really looking for a relationship, and I felt that she became tired that night because she did not get the answer she was looking for? She says she is really into me and would be in a relationship, however when we are together before the liquor starts kicking in, all we do is some light KINO. We don't kiss or anything, but once we leave the bar or get to her place I make my move and she's all over me.

I'm just surprised with how she states she is really into me, yet is kind of distant. Any advice on how to get her more intimate while no alcohol is involved and how should I proceed with her, since I am not really looking for a relationship?

She wants to hang out tomorrow, but I think I will tell her I have plans(good idea?)

Thank you for your advice. I will try your suggestions, definitely the massage.

She texts me just about every day now, and asks what my plans are for the evening. Sometimes I will say I'm doing blah blah or tell her no plans at the moment.

I will respond, ask her what her plans are and she will tell me whatever, for example earlier today she told me she didn't have any plans. I didn't respond to it and 2 hours later she texts "I need to find something though."

I assume she is hinting for me to make plans with her, but I'm not sure how often hanging out is acceptable or coming off to available.

She's protecting herself by keeping her emotions at bay. Her explicit statements of being into you are, is in all likelihood a ploy to get you to validate her feelings of insecurity, for example, by responding in kind with "I'm really into you too!". Here's how I'd approach this particular situation:
-Give her something, but not everything she's asking for. What I mean specifically by this is that you validate her insecurities, but only a bit, and doing so sparingly (not all the time). If convenient, my response would be a kino of sorts. For example, if she asks if you find her attractive, simply respond by approaching her face, one hand softly behind the back of her neck, or head and giving her a nice, deep, passionate kiss (the kino should imply the response - in other words, don't simply give her a peck on the lips as that suggests "Aw, you're cute for asking such questions," or worse yet, may be perceived as dismissive).
-Don't play into her games. If you're escalating and she cuts you short because you simply didn't respond to her in the way she wanted you to, simply respect her wishes and be gentlemanly. You did this well after she abruptly discontinued the intimacy, where she then asked if you were mad. She was probably taken-a-back by your nonchalant, non-angry response, albeit quite incredulous as she expected you, like most men, to become reactive possibly accusing her of being a cock tease. I believe that she quite intentionally cut things short to illicit a reaction out of you, think of it as a compliance test of sorts, but quite possibly as a form of punishment for not validating her insecurities earlier that evening.
-Lastly, if she likes you, don't play aloof. Show her that you like her too as there's nothing that women hate more than a guy who plays the whole interest/disinterest game. I am not equating this to push/pull because push/pull is done, to some degree, with jest in mind - you don't literally tell her "I want you, please fuck off", or even demonstrate this through behavior as inevitably the woman will go elsewhere to find what she needs.

Anyway, that's all i have to add at the moment. Seems as though you've got most things under control, however perhaps it'd be best to abstain from the drinking as it only dulls the experience and can de-enhance the sexual tension part of things (as you aren't fully engaged in the experience as you normally would be in a sober state).

And don't forget to game other girls

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As to the giving her something, I did basically just as you said. When she first asked if I liked her I pulled her close and put my hand on her cheek/neck and proceeded to give her a passionate kiss. She was still looking for a verbal answer after this, and I told her I liked her a little. And used my thumb and index finger and made a small gap to demonstrate how much, while smiling at her. So I have shown her I am interested, and she knew before we had sex I am not really looking for anything serious, because I may be leaving the country in a month or so for work.

However I feel as if now she might be looking for a relationship from me(even though she knows my situation) and I need to find a way to keep things causal and keep hooking up with her.

Next time I am with her, which may be tonight. I will make sure we avoid the alcohol and see what happens sober. Ill try the massage idea.

I agree with what youre saying

If she's wanting a marriage partner and you want something else, let it be. It's selfish to try and convince her she should meet your needs if you aren't interested in meeting hers. So many other chicks out there.