I've been involved with this girl who has a boyfriend of 3 months. We first hooked up back in December after being great friends for over a year. We were both drunk, we confessed our feelings for each other and what could/should have been between us and one thing led to another.

Since then, we still hang out and hook up. We both know it's wrong, but we've pretty much been in love with each other for the past year. I tried going the route of stealing her away from her boyfriend, but I knew deep down that it wasn't the right thing to do and definitely not how I wanted to start a relationship with this girl.

So now i'm at the point where I know I need to walk away from this girl. It's honestly not worth the trouble at this point in my life. Maybe in a few months, if we're both single then something can happen, but I'm not down to play second fiddle to her boyfriend anymore.

But we've both invested so much into each other, as friends and more, that it makes it really hard to be just cut her out of my life. How do I stop all contact when I practically talk to her every day? She'll definitely know something's up. I would like to keep her as a friend/pivot, but there are too many strong feelings involved for that to happen right now.

I know what I need to do, but I'm wondering if there's an easy way to do it?

What you need to do is be a man and 'steal' her as you put it. It comes down to carnal instincts. Women will go for the strongest mate. Stealing her from her current boyfriend will hugely boost you in her eyes, she will see you as a man, and by the sounds of things you both love each other and want to be with each other. And *she* isn't going to step up and be the man, she wants you to do it. It's unfortunately for men; just the way is is.

I know is a difficult thing to do, but she will respect you hugely for at least trying.

Good luck buddy,

Scotch-Tape

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Talk to her about your feelings and say you'll cut contact. If she does not want that, she'll know on what terms it will be.

Game other girls.

If a girl is willing to cheat on her bf with you, aint no reason to think she won't cheat on you if a dude comes along she likes.

I probably could steal her if I wanted to. But to me, it seems like an uphill battle with way more on the line than if I were to just go game new girls. Sure making her my girlfriend would mean so much more than another girl, but i'm wondering if it's even worth all the trouble.

I care for her a lot, but she's with another guy. And no matter how much she loves me, at the end of the day if she's still with him, doesn't that mean that she also has strong feelings for him too?

But I dunno, sometimes I feel like walking away would be accepting defeat to this other guy. And that I really should follow my heart, and not my mind. Especially if i do love her.