Been friends for about 3 years now. She's lower to mid 20's I'm upper 20's. Always been nothing more than friends. I've always thought about wanting to date her but this happened after college and we live 3 states apart. Not worth my time to try and do the long distance thing. There has always been this awkward tension between us.. Almost like we want more than friends but don't want to ruin what we have.

Anyways she ends up moving back to my home state. We talk everyday, hang out, she cooks me dinner, we go out at night, I help her move. She starts asking me how she compares to my past gf's, asks me what I like in girls I date.. ect. The things I tell her she some how now is like that. I'm not blind because the signs are clear as day. She blows up my phone 24/7 and so on. So we go out drinking a week or so ago. She has maybe 4 drinks and I get pretty buzzed. We end up kissing a few times. She starts to tell me that I was suppose to be with her for new years cause I was her guy and everything. She then starts to make very suggestive commits about a future together.. i.e. I hope you can get use to the hair color/length cause I plan on you being around for a long time and a few more.

When end the nigh by going back to her place. Nothing more happened.

I don't hear from her the next day which is very odd so I hit her up with a text asking how she's feeling. She's very short and vague. I ask her if she wants to talk about what happened the night before. Her response is she doesn't remember anything and asked what happened. I told her we just made out and nothing more. No way she doesn't remember... She had 4 drinks and she can drink like a fish. I tell her that her and our friendship mean to much to me and how about we go to dinner and clear the air about what happened. A day later she responds by saying she doesn't think thats a good idea right now. Now in all honesty she's trying to get over a guy she likes I think he might have entered back into the picture. I just responded back by saying alright that's a nice way to handle it. Take care of yourself. I'm not putting up with anyone that treats me like that. We've been friends for a while. When she moved back to my state I bent over backwards helping her cause no one else would... I mean that what friends do right. She's been all over my nuts for a while wanting me to make a move, telling me how her parents would like me and so on... And then this? Wtf. We kissed. it was something she wanted! If I date her great... But I really just miss her as a friend. I haven't texted her nor has she talked to me in about a week. I don't know what's going on but you can be sure I'm not going to go around chasing her. Any clue?

That things happens, it has happened to you, it has happened to me... you need to realize that you are talking or interacting with a person, there are hundreds of things that YOU CAN'T control.
When you've had such long relationship with someone - in this case as friends- it's normal that she feels strange and it's completely normal that she doesn't know what to do , that's why 1st you shouldn't make out with your friends and 2nd never make out when you are drunk becasue this things happen.
Now the question is , did you make out with her becasue you were drunk? What about her? Just man up and try to talk to her but before doing that thnk about what is it that you want a relationship? sex? Think abou it.

Good luck

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Dude in my opinion i think you move on from the relationship thing with her and just try become friends again...theresmany other chicks..

I would start with chattin with her again, then try and get you guys to go out as friends

Disqualify her, show her that you have put her in the friendzone, this might help her feel a bit more comfortable

Hope every thing works out man

go check out what probable deniability is man, then you should check out asd and topics related to it,

basically, girls don't want to feel like they are responsible for anything sexual or related to sexuality if they are not sure if they will be judged for it, or if they will have some guy telling everyone he knows, this can damage their public image and lots of girls worry big time if other people think they are sluts,

even one drink is enough probable deniability for a girl to say, haha im not a slut, I can't even remember what happened last night I was so drunk, totally sucked that guy off and I was the one that escalated and lead, cause it was what I wanted and I knew the guy was too pussy to do it himself, so I drank a bit to give myself probable deniability

girls just give hints that they like you, and hope you jump on it and escalate, alot of guys get confused when girls resist thinking, WTF IS GOING ON??? (scratches head), she was all into me then she didn't make having sex with her super easy, wtf is up with that?, well it is cause they don't want to feel slutty, or think to themselves they gave it up easy, and you leading plowing through resistance (don't get this confused with raping a chick), is a form of probable deniability for her

this is why it is often said, girls say one thing and mean another, don't listen to what a girl says, watch what she does, know what you want and know how to get it, go for what you want and don't worry about what she thinks, because if you are listening to her in the logical sense and following what she says, then just about every girl you ever talk to will hit the breaks due to her pussy protecting anxiety, unless you handle asd really well by accident, or she is really really really into you, or just naturally doesn't consider sex a big deal and is easy/desperate for some sex

After three years man, it just isn't happening. Meet some other girls. Maybe she could introduce you to some of her friends? Usually, things just happen. One girl, I got her number sometime late last year but, she ended up flaking. Turns out, she is seeing someone, he is into drugs, stealing, been to jail, and threatens to hurt her. I don't understand it but, I don't really care. I am trying to emulate being more like Jeffy. Someone on the forum said I try to be too perfect, perfect life, perfect game, and everything. Jeffy just is as he is. I read his book and it made me learn a lot of stuff. Sometimes, things are not meant to be, and part of it, I was hesitent too.

The good news is that, I met a girl that I like and want to get to know on new years eve. I got blown out all night, kept drinking more, and cause I was blown out so much, and really drunk, I didn't even feel it any more. Once I sobered up, my game got better, sets went smoother, and I ended up picking up a girl, getting her number, getting food with her, meeting her friends, and getting their numbers. I probably should have tried to pull. We had a day 2, plan to see her again, and I have since met lots more, got some fb contacts, and a few more numbers. 2012 is going to be a good year. I am going to a jeffy free tour tomorrow. I am doing flawless natural program from home (tim is amazing). Actually, right after I finished the flawless natural program, I got a number, and I wont be surprised if I pull after a jeffy free tour.

Thanks for all the replies. Truly some good stuff spoken here. To answer some of the questions here I made out with her because I wanted too. Not cause I was drunk. Why did she kiss me? Because she wanted too. I have no doubt in my mind about this. I wouldn't mind working on the friend thing. I think it might be hard to do some of the stuff she said but I'd be willing to try it. I honestly don't know how to chat her up again. It all feels so awkward now. I'm guessing she might feel that too. I gave her the opportunity for us to talk about it and thats when it took her a day to say she didn't think it was a good idea right now. What am I suppose to do... Swallow my pride send her a text and just ask how's she been?

I'd expect something this from a girl I didn't really know or a younger one but not someone who has graduated college and is 23.

I thought she might even be a little embarrassed about some of the stuff she said that night and that was the cause of lack in communication. But when I offered to sit down and chat with her about it thats when I got blown off. Women...