Hey guys,

So there's this girl from work who is totally in to me. She invited me to her house for jacuzzi night and we ended fucking that night. I know she's still in to me because every time we work together she's giving me a bunch of IOI's. Also, she admitted to me that she just likes to sleep around and not want to be in a relationship. I need to capitalize on this.... Sometimes she'll text me out of the blue and we'll start talking, which will happen every few days then stop for a week.

My question: If I were to text her to "hang out," (probably at her house because she lives with her dad and a few roommates, but her dad is at work from 8 pm-4am, which leaves plenty of time for fun ) how would I go about "hanging out?" I've never really hung out with a girl by herself not drunk, so what would we do?? Watch tv or something?? I kind of have a game plan on how it would go, but I have no idea if it would work or not. It would somehow turn in to us sitting on her couch watching a movie or something and then me putting my arm around her and using more kino's, then escalate to making out, and so on. Does this seem about right??

Thanks for the advice guys, I appreciate ANY advice given.

Personally that sounds about right to me. Others on here might tell you to be more direct, and there's nothing wrong with that either. You both know you're "hanging out" because you're going to have sex, so what's the point in being indirect? I guess it depends what you want; if you want to actually hang out with her first, then watch the film on the sofa, kino during it etc, and then get to the sex later, fine. If you aren't too bothered about actually hanging out, and you're both just wanting to get to the sex, then be direct and get on with it!

The way I set up my bens (friends with benefits) is I first make it very clear that I'm really really not a jealous person. Then I keep the flirtation and cutesy stuff to a minimum. Don't give them the idea that you like them for anything more than a friend. But don't make it so they think you're repulsed. Also never talk about fucking other girls. Ben's like to think they're the only Ben. Lastly remember a Ben is someone sexual and a realist. So less gaming is needed. A more farwarad approach is needed.

I would wait till your next text session starts. Focus on turning the conversation sexual, really nasty sexting. Then once she is getting into the discussion write this. "So, when do you want to "hangout" again? rawrrr!". It's clear what you're asking but you're not being awkward about it. After your hookup tell her you want to make a habit out of her. Say that you're tired of wining and dining flaky girls who want serious relationships before they'll put out. Suggest sexuality... make it clear you're not wanting a relationship with anyone. But don't make it out as if she is undateable.

Does she have a TV in her room? If so awesome. Here is how I get to it. Walk in with the movie... shut the door behind you both and tell her to get on the bed. Pop in the DVD, get the volume set set skip ahead to the menu and get it playing. As you come to the bed slowly slide over her. As you begin to crawl your legs on either side make strong eye contact. As you're over her looking down into her eyes focus on her lips and give your lower lip a small bite. Lower yourself onto her and kiss... from there move to the neck then ear lobe. Breath hard into her ear while you suck the lobe. Then kiss down her stomach... ext. You should know what to do fro there.

Then after you're done; depending on your stamina. Either return to the movie or suggest starting over. Cuddle her while you watch and act like she is anyother girl. Don't be awkward with her you're just friends. She is your buddy... but remember to stay sexy don't act like you're having a guys night watching the game eating Cheetos drinking bear and farting up her bed.