If you are talking to a girl and the subject of attraction comes up and she starts giving you reasons why she wouldnt date/fuck you...i.e. your too small for her.. you have x,y,z about your face.. what do you make of that?.. always a shit test that can be overcome? or normally real objection?

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Assume attraction.

Fact is, we all have our "type" we look for in the desired sex. If you were to tell a girl she wasn't your type, and she asks why, or tries to argue how awesome she is, she is qualifying herself to you. That is, she is trying to demonstrate that she's attractive either to save her ego or to convince you that you oughta be interested in her. That's one thing that can happen when a girl says such a thing to you. It's not necessarily a shit test, usually that's about seeing if they can rattle your cage.

thanks for the reply..

So if a girl is genuinely not interested.. what do they usually say or do?

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you can plow all you want, but honestly that is a sign of dis-interest, when girls are interested expect shit tests more like, are you a player?, do you always do this kind of thing?, how many girls have you slept with?, do I look fat?, do you think I should change my hair?, *her randomly being rude*, *her randomly seeking reactions from you*

really if a girl insults your look you can either just try to plow plow plow, or say pleasure meeting you and go talk to another girl who doesn't insult your looks

also if you want to get into frame control, when a girl is trying to ''qualify'' you to a frame, the idea is to not ''qualify'' yourself she will set a out a meaning to what she is saying

-I wouldn't date you because you're hair is too brown
qualifying yourself would basicly be doing something that supports her claim and he disqualification of you as a potiential love interest, you are trying to prove yourself to her in other words or gain her approval

examples:
-my hair isn't too brown
-I can change my hair colour
-you have bad taste in hair


so how can you respond to this without qualifying to her preference and trying to impress her, just either ignore it, agree with it and make it seem stupid, or just reverse the qualifier on to her

examples:
-look at her like she said something weird and hold eye contact for a bit

-you know I had gape jelly this mourning on my bread it was awesome, what did you have for breakfast? (right after she drops your hair is too brown or w/e)

-well my hair is only going to get browner just to irritate you every day, and somehow you will still want to date me, don't ask me how

-you're not one of those hair judger people are you?, they suck pretty bad

nice info. thanks..

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