Over the years and from my own experience ive learned a lot and feel that i have improved but sometimes you encounter situations where you dont know how to proceed.

Opening up and telling a girl your feelings is often seen as a AFC move, therefore i need advice on this one.

ive been dating this girl for a few months and while we shared a lot with each other and have fun together and have sex,im not sure what we are and what direction she wants to go.As of recent,things got a little weird and she seems a bit distant since the last time we went out as i was drinking a lot.

I have not contacted her but i know she is upset.I will wait for her to contact me,but im wondering if it is better to open up and in a non threatning way bring up the fact that shes being distant and ask if she was upset. i know she is shy and i dont want this awkward relarionship/situation to continue.

Is it a wise move? PS.im not going to beg her to be with me,just want her to open up and wanted to break the ice.[/code]

There are only 2 scenarios where men should be ranting about their emotions

A. You are seeing a shrink
B. You are a homosexual and having dinner with your gay partner

Straight men in normal relationships choose to discharge their emotions in non-laconic ways for a variety of reasons. They are all wrong.

Wishful thinking- despite popular belief, your girlfriend doesn’t give a fuck how or why you feel a certain way. When she asks you to “open up” to her, it’s not because she wants to change her self to suit your emotional needs, it’s because she wants to know how big of a pussy you are and whether or not she should dump you. It’s a hard truth to grasp and fully acknowledge, but no amount of zealous bemoaning is EVER going to change something about your relationship. Give up hope; start using your head instead.

2. You haven’t been unplugged yet- We’ve all been raised to believe that “opening up” to our partners and revealing everything about the way we feel is proper protocol in times of distress. In case you haven’t noticed, most of the “truths” men are taught from an early age are piles of force-fed bullshit. Displaying desperate and/or insecure behavior DOES NOT INCREASE rapport. Too many guys are under the impression that by admitting their insecurities to their girlfriends, they’ll build trust and a stronger bond. NO.

3. You don’t have enough inner game- From now on whenever you are in doubt of what to do or say, ask yourself “what would _______ do” and fill in the blank with a super Alpha like James Bond or Alexander the Great.

“Opening up” is an excuse men use to give their emotions uncontrolled play. It is a rationalization guys use to justify bitching, moaning, and excessively pathetic behavior. Learn to control your emotions. I’m not saying you should be a stone and never communicate how you feel with your girlfriend, but I am saying you shouldn’t be ranting about how upset you are that she went out last night, you shouldn’t be discussing your insecurities with her, and you shouldn’t be attempting to strike a chord of sympathy with her by crying. Grow balls. Control your emotions.