Hey guys,

Little story: I used to date this pretty hot chick, atleast HB9, for about 2 months with make outs every date. But no Fclose. We were good friends before. (I always tend to date girls i am just friends with, not sure why it attracts me). After 2 months of dating, SHE decided to tell me she didn't want to lose me as a friend if we ever get into a relationship. So we decided to just stay friends from that point. Pretty stupid, because that's not what i want..

Never acted needy or afc. and only rewarded her for behaviour that indicated attraction for me. I started to become unavailable to her, and even ignored her for a while. But she won't reinitiate contact anymore, and i understand that.

But is there any way to get her back to dating me or being friends again? I don't really care to be just good friends again. She told me she didnt want to lose me as her best friend, but since i started to play the unavailable and ignore game, i can't get her to initiate anymore. It used to work on her, not anymore.

Suggestions are deeply appreciated.

Positivevibe

She put you in the friend zone because you never escalated with her. 2 month of making out and no escalation from there is just bad. If you have any idea how nasty girls are, you be shocked. But you have to be the one that leads it, and make sure she knows if she does it first, your cool with it.

Next, I think she probably has moved on and is dating another guy and is breaking contact to avoid awkwardness. Move on, this is damage control. Only way I see to start talking to her is probably running into her somewhere by accident. Don't be Ben Stiller from Something About Mary and start stalking her now.

Also, not escalating is being an AFC.

First time i tried to escalate with her in my bed, she told me she had her period, second time we only had like 15min and i only managed to get her top and pants off, so i was always leading, but it never happend in 2 months. we only had a few times private time. Weve been very good friends before we started dating for about 3 years, she had a bf that time.

Dont think she is dating anyone right now, because i know alot of her friends, and they usually tell me everything.

So give up on her and continue gaming my other girls? I Obv prefer her though.

Yes, start dating other girls.

But if you know her friends, don't give up, but just drop her and stop talking or thinking about her at the same time. It will drive you crazy. And if you ever run into her again, it will not be so awkward for you.

Maybe you can run into her since you got mutual friends like at a bday party or something.

And just to make life easier, it's kind of awkward for girls to sleep with a guy for first time. She needs an "excuse." So maybe get some alcohol and drink together next time to lower her anxiety. For those that argue, nothing wrong with this, especially if you want to keep a girl around.

Careful and don't get her drunk and take advantage of her, this is screwed up and you can get charge with rape!!!!!! IF she is drunk, just drop it. Have some respect for girls.