Hey guys I'm new to the site and I wanted a little bit of feedback on a current situation.
To start out I'm 17 and quite frankly I am not looking for the "your too young to be on this site" answer. So I'd appreciate if that wasn't brought up.

First off I've had a problem with crippling anti socialism for the past few months.
The reason this worries me is that I used to be a VERY social person, and now whenever I try to talk to women it is like one of those situations they over exaggerate on t.v where your on stage and your stripped of your clothes in front of an audience.

So I guess my question regarding that subject is, have any of you ever had something happen that sort of knocked you into an anti social rut even when you wanted to be social and know you had the capacity to?

Another problem is maturity levels, I have always been a little bit more mature than other people my age.
I compensated by dating women who were two years older than me.
Now that I'm 17 the gap in age (even though it is the same as it's always been) seems a little bit larger to women than it used to because they apparently have some issue with me not being legal.
The problem with that now is I've gotten numbers off of women who are 19 and they showed more than just a little interest until I mentioned my age.

And I've been trying to date someone my age or younger, but it's feeling hopeless just due to maturity differences.
So is lowering my maturity level and acting a little bit more like a goof something I should do to help the situation?

Thank you for any and all feedback guys!

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As far as your "maturity" goes, you want to have different sides to you. Playful side, mature side, sexual side.
-Just playful, your gonna be a man child
-Just mature, your gonna be a boring guy overall
-Just sexual, your gonna be a creep.
Combine all 3, and your gonna be limitless. Women has to see all 3 sides of you.



2nd, I am guessing your probably lying. Be real, we don't know you. But how do you go from hooking up with women like that to just becoming nervous around them? If your not lying and this is true, I suggest you go see a shrink. This is serious stuff.

Well in all actuality it's due to the fact that I've been sick for the past 7 months or so, with various different minor illnesses which caused me to lose almost 30 pounds.

A guy with a nice face who is in a house fire and gets it scarred loses his bread and butter.
And a guy who prided himself on his body (me) then loses most of it he then loses his bread and butter?

Correct me if I'm wrong.

To insinuate I'm lying is based (most likely) purely off of assumption based on age, is totally understandable.
But it's the internet, I have no reason to lie because personally I don't care what anyone here thinks of me? If I did why would I be open about having woman issues instead of parading false skills that I don't have?

Not getting smart with you or anything, just thinking logically there.

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sorry to hear that.

I would seriously suggest getting your mental health and physical health back to normal before you start talking to women.

But the best answer I got for confidence boost (helped me a lot) is a call RSD BLUEPRINT. Really good inner game stuff. It about 20 hours long video. Also, a long with it, do the Style Life Challenge.

BTW, I have to add, RSD Blueprint is probably the best product out there as far as inner game goes. Is really worth checking out. And I think it will help you with your issues.

Not gonna take sides. At first i was intrigued as well by your issue, as 0uch presented. Now that you have explained, will try to work it out.

Losing what used to make you feel confident is a bad thing. The only advice for you about it is: join the gym lol Now, seriously, try to get back in shape because you WILL feel confident again. In the meantime, hone your social skills. You can never depend entirely on your looks,When a Hb10 comes along, looks will only get you so far. What will close the deal is your head.

Now, about the maturity issues, do not lower your maturity level. You will pretend to be someone you are not, and that is never good, You will not be happy. Now with the older girls, you have to bypass the age issue. I know how you feel, cause i've been there. If a girl dont ask your age, you dont say it. If she does, you ask her back: "How old do you think I am?" Most of the cases, she will project an age she thinks is appropriate for you ( that is, if she is really interested in you). Then you just answer: "Yep, that's about it."

Try it out and give some feedback.

Well let me reiterate my statement a little bit, when I say anti social I don't particularly mean with everyone.
I'm mainly talking about women, when I'm out with the bro's it's exactly as it was.
It's not depression or anything thing I feel I need psychiatric evaluation over.

Just a new adjusted way to approach women with personality more so than looks until I can get myself whipped back into shape.

Thank you for the suggestion though, much appreciated.

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Thank you loco, that was about what I was looking for.
I just wasn't sure if I should change how I am for someone when I feel it was their issue that was making me change.
As for the gym I've had a membership for 3 years now. But being sick off and on is really preventing me from going like I used to.

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No problem man, that's what we are here for.