I don't want to bore you guys with another sappy one-itis story, but this one is really killing me and I need to know what to do. I also don't want anyone to try to tell me "you can't have this girl. go sleep with 50 more girls and you'll be fine" but I've already tried all that, and it's just not going to happen. This is a very serious case here. This isn't your average girl I'm talking about. This girl and I have a real legitimate connection. We have countless things in common, we can talk about anything for hours. She's such a great girl with qualities you would be very hard pressed to find anywhere else. I've decided that I will not settle for anything less than to get this girl. And on top of that she's a solid 9.

Now. Onto the problem. While we have made out once while shooting a music video, we have had this weird relationship. We flirt constantly, there's definitely sexual tension, but for some reason both of us try to act uninterested around each other. It's a really stupid game that doesn't get anyone anywhere, and I want it to stop, because until it does we will never be anything more than friends and I just can't live like that.

I'm thinking the solution will have to be one of two things: one, just confront her about this over the phone. Work it into the conversation and then end the "game" by stating my full intent and interest that I've been trying to hide for stupid immature reason. I hate that though, because it shows all my cards and I am suseptable to rejection. The 2nd option: next time I see her, find a good moment and go for a k-close. I'm not sure what else I can do here. I could really use some great suggestions. If you guys need any details before giving me advice just let me know and I'll be happy to spill anything.

Thanks so much!

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Wait, did you makeout as part of the video, or behind camera? LOL

Look, you're acting like a total vag right now; emotional, bent out of shape, reactive.

Here's what we're going to do: we're going to reframe what's going on here so you understand things better and stop flapping your labia in the wind. The flirting has gotten you all hot and bothered - you're so worked up, and rather than working with it (e.g. escalating), you're too caught up in your emotional state. Allow the tension to continue, she wants this; she's turned on by it and in all probability is waiting for you to take the lead. Instead you want to confront her? On what exactly, being a tease? Dude, women love this, so learn to use it to your advantage to get what you want.

Don't call her out unless you want to lose what you have. She'll think you're lame, she'll walk, guaranteed. Next time the touching begins, push her against the wall and kiss her passionately. Be all cocky if she's speechless "Ya, that shut you the fuck up!" with a smile on your face. Be more aggressive, tell her after you guys are going out on the weekend. In all likelihood she wants you to take control. To address the situation overtly will kill all the tension and fantasy for her, it'll be the kiss of death (forgive the pun).

not to sound like a doucebag, but if you alcohol makes it a lot easier to escalate for first time.

And nothing wrong it, especially since you like her and want to keep her around.

@papichulo818 Yeah, I know I'm being the biggest pussy about this. And maybe I had a poor choice of words. I didn't mean actually "confront" her about why we aren't going anywhere, more like just, maybe even covertly, reveal that I am in fact attracted to her and I do like her for more than just a one night stand. She told my friend last week after she left my house "I could see myself dating him, but I wouldn't just want to be a one night stand. We'd have to be dating first." So I'm not sure she even knows I like her like that. I'm going to call her tonight or tomorrow because we're collaborating on writing a short film. (I won't get to see her for a couple more weeks, so this is my best bet.) Should I subtly weave in the fact that I do or even make it seem like I could develop feelings in the future for her? Idk if that would make it awkward or not.

But I do like your suggestion about kissing her next time I see her, the problem is I'm not sure when that will be.

@0uch That would work, but she doesn't drink. Lol.

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