Earlier in the week I posted about this girl in a relationship who would come over to our "college party" house (9 guys live here) that I live in with my roommates. In a nutshell, she was sending out IOIs, flirting, dancing, etc. every weekend while her boyfriend was nowhere in sight. My original thought was that she was into me though I was intimidated/clueless as to how to deal with the whole boyfriend situation. I'll sadly admit that I did develop a slight crush on her (not oneitis, my immune system has since eradicated that disease from my body), but again, was very hesitant in how to act on it.

However over the weekend she began flirting with some of my other housemates and while not flirting nearly as heavily with them as she was with me, was doing it nonetheless. All of a sudden it hit me like a bowling ball falling from a ten story window. This girl is a tease. The biggest red flag for me is that it was her who originally introduced herself and began flirting with me, classic tease characteristics. Anyways, almost instantly I no longer had a crush on her and any feelings I had were turned into contempt for her as well as me for letting myself fall prey to a tease, a very AFC move. Perhaps I'm being paranoid. Maybe I'm just not aggressive enough with her and she really does want me. Granted she is not a cookie cutter tease (I've never bought her anything, she doesn't treat other guys quite the same way she treats me, and the fact that she has a boyfriend is rare amongst teases to my knowledge), but her constant seeking of attention from myself as well as my roommates coupled with her reluctance to move beyond flirting is enough for me to conclude that she's a tease, who may or may not be having boyfriend issues, but in the end does not have any feelings/desire for me or the housemates she flirts with on occasion.

I really couldn't care less if I'm wrong about her or not, though I would like opinions on whether or not people think I've drawn the right conclusions about her. Like I said, any feelings I had have dissipated, I really have nothing to lose here. So I'd like to confront her about it. Being a college house we obviously party at every available opportunity and she is over for almost every single party (primarily because I've invited her most times) and will no doubt continue to do so this upcoming weekend. I plan on being straight up with her. I'll pull her aside and inform her that she needs to drop the act if she wants to continue being let into our parties. If she's not interested in anyone in the house that's not really a problem, she can continue coming by if she's willing to act like every other decent girl who just wants to have a good time without manipulating others. Unless her answer is that she did have feelings for me the entire time (very doubtful IMO) I really don't give a shit how she responds or if she decides to comply by my requirements or just cease to come to the house.

My question to you PUAs, those who actually know what they're talking about, is there any reason that I shouldn't proceed with this plan? Am I perhaps way off the mark with my interpretation of her behavior? Any and all responses would be much appreciated. Peace.

lets think about this, you don't try to make anything happen, and by default... nothing happens

you do try to make something happen, something possibly happens, or possibly does not happen

now making this choice is up to you, not a forum, if you want some magic green light, then you will suck at this shit forever, get over being rejected, it doesn't matter, the sooner you do, the sooner you can just say what you want and not care, she rejects you, who gives a fuck, approach a new one, if it takes you 2 years to escalate only to get rejected when you could have found out in 2 days, then you just wasted 2 years, stop wasting your time, girls say yes, girls say no

no matter what, some girls will say yes, some girls will say no, and it is god damn near impossible to guage what the answer will be, some show no interest and say yes, some show a ton of interest and say no, some will say no, but want to say yes(and possibly say yes later), stop trying to have the perfect outcome to protect your ego, be confident, go for what you want, be brave and take a damn risk, plunge into the unknown, the more you do it, the better you get at doing it and not caring about what happens, because if things don't work out you can stop wasting your time and start a new journey

[quote="pumpington"][quote="RaceBannon"]Earlier in the week I posted about this girl in a relationship who would come over to our "college party" house (9 guys live here) that I live in with my roommates. In a nutshell, she was sending out IOIs, flirting, dancing, etc. every weekend while her boyfriend was nowhere in sight. My original thought was that she was into me though I was intimidated/clueless as to how to deal with the whole boyfriend situation. I'll sadly admit that I did develop a slight crush on her (not oneitis, my immune system has since eradicated that disease from my body), but again, was very hesitant in how to act on it.

However over the weekend she began flirting with some of my other housemates and while not flirting nearly as heavily with them as she was with me, was doing it nonetheless. All of a sudden it hit me like a bowling ball falling from a ten story window. This girl is a tease. The biggest red flag for me is that it was her who originally introduced herself and began flirting with me, classic tease characteristics. Anyways, almost instantly I no longer had a crush on her and any feelings I had were turned into contempt for her as well as me for letting myself fall prey to a tease, a very AFC move. Perhaps I'm being paranoid. Maybe I'm just not aggressive enough with her and she really does want me. Granted she is not a cookie cutter tease (I've never bought her anything, she doesn't treat other guys quite the same way she treats me, and the fact that she has a boyfriend is rare amongst teases to my knowledge), but her constant seeking of attention from myself as well as my roommates coupled with her reluctance to move beyond flirting is enough for me to conclude that she's a tease, who may or may not be having boyfriend issues, but in the end does not have any feelings/desire for me or the housemates she flirts with on occasion.

I really couldn't care less if I'm wrong about her or not, though I would like opinions on whether or not people think I've drawn the right conclusions about her. Like I said, any feelings I had have dissipated, I really have nothing to lose here. So I'd like to confront her about it. Being a college house we obviously party at every available opportunity and she is over for almost every single party (primarily because I've invited her most times) and will no doubt continue to do so this upcoming weekend. I plan on being straight up with her. I'll pull her aside and inform her that she needs to drop the act if she wants to continue being let into our parties. If she's not interested in anyone in the house that's not really a problem, she can continue coming by if she's willing to act like every other decent girl who just wants to have a good time without manipulating others. Unless her answer is that she did have feelings for me the entire time (very doubtful IMO) I really don't give a shit how she responds or if she decides to comply by my requirements or just cease to come to the house.

[b]My question to you PUAs, those who actually know what they're talking about, is there any reason that I shouldn't proceed with this plan? Am I perhaps way off the mark with my interpretation of her behavior? Any and all responses would be much appreciated. Peace.[/b][/quote]

lets think about this, you don't try to make anything happen, and by default... nothing happens

you do try to make something happen, something possibly happens, or possibly does not happen

now making this choice is up to you, not a forum, if you want some magic green light, then you will suck at this shit forever, get over being rejected, it doesn't matter, the sooner you do, the sooner you can just say what you want and not care, she rejects you, who gives a fuck, approach a new one, if it takes you 2 years to escalate only to get rejected when you could have found out in 2 days, then you just wasted 2 years, stop wasting your time, girls say yes, girls say no

no matter what, some girls will say yes, some girls will say no, and it is god damn near impossible to guage what the answer will be, some show no interest and say yes, some show a ton of interest and say no, some will say no, but want to say yes(and possibly say yes later), stop trying to have the perfect outcome to protect your ego, be confident, go for what you want, be brave and take a damn risk, plunge into the unknown, the more you do it, the better you get at doing it and not caring about what happens, because if things don't work out you can stop wasting your time and start a new journey[/quote]

I'm having a hard time following you (vague post), but I think I get the jist. You're right, it absolutely has a good deal to do with stroking the ego; I feel like I've been played and I want to take the power back and save myself some dignity. And I'm not really looking for this forum to make the decision for me, it's already more or less made, I just want feedback and opinions from those who know a lot more than me.