Hey guys.

Met a girl at a party the other week. We hit it off real well, I was paying out on her and she was loving it. She was touching and punching me when I made fun of her and she was laughing a lot.

Long story short, we ended up sleeping in the same bed together (cuddling and she was stroking my arm). She then left the next morning and was a very crappy goodbye, so she added me and messaged me on facebook. (through friends of friends)

We've been talking, and we met up again. Just went out to see a movie. She seemed a little colder, not as touchy, however I still initiated touch (stroking her arm etc). I drove her home, she invited me in, met some of the family and played xbox for a few hours.

We've been talking, bantering etc. Although she seems to have gone a little quiet.

Point is, I'm sick of the beating around the bush. I would like to take things further, however I am not sure how and am not sure if she's keen on any other guys. I'm thinking about just being upfront, sort of "take it or leave it".

Thoughts? Suggestions?

Cheers.

Ask her out on a date. "Hey, I'm going to such-and-such a place on the weekend, why don't you come along with me?"

Nothing's ever fun if it comes to easy. There's thrill in the chase. Get her out, get her hooked, be a bit aloof over the following days. Get her out again. Repeat.

It sounds like you are forcing yourself into the friend zone, I think you have to be a bit more upfront than what you're already doing.

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Same thing with girls; you don't lay it all down - but like Florg said you need to be a little bit more aggressive. If your in bed with a girl you like sleeping toghether you need to make a move or she'll think your gay or dont like her

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I was going to go bowling perhaps later on in the week. I'll ask her to come with me. I've been pretty aggressive with touching (we have held hands and hugged), however no kiss thus far. I'm thinking the no kiss is really hurting things.

How should I initiate the "up front"? We generally speak via facebook, and text on the rare occasion. What should I be saying?

I've been heavy on the cocky-funny. I make it work ("I know you want me" or "I make you melt, don't I?" or "I'm obviously at the top of your list" you know, just banter stuff).

Course of action I am thinking is let her re-initiate the conversation (it's stopped at the moment, she hasn't responded to me), if she does, ask her on a date, if not, be ballsy and tell her I am not interested in flakes and she's loosing me.

no chick sleeps in my bed unless we are doing the grownup

it's bad juju

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Okay, I think I am starting to get it now.

Analyzing, if she agrees to a date, I can then assume enough attraction. Therefore, build upon it by being more aggressive. Heavy kino, bantering to keep things flirty, get a kiss, get her into bed and seal the deal.

Assuming the date is going ahead, should I admit attraction beforehand (i.e. "I like you, this is a date") or afterward (i.e "I had fun tonight, I like you) or at all? I'm split down the middle. On one hand, it cements that yes this is a date and yes we will be going back to mine to seal it, however that gives her power and gives me up as the challenge. On the other hand, she may think that it's just friends hanging out (which it shouldn't be) however being heavy on the kino show's initiative, confidence etc.