How does this work?

I know of a few couples where the female is more dominant than the male, yet adores him to an endless degree.

I have no issue with this at all It just confuses me.

It actually seems to me that some girls are turned off completely by the "Big Man".

A female friend of mine rejected what she described as "easily the biggest ladies man in the school" simply because she just wasn't attracted to him. This was probably 2 months ago.

Maybe I'm taking this too literally...too "black and white" - but I always thought ("always" meaning since joining this community) that the man who is desired by most women and is a leader among men will (basically without fail) be able to attract any girl.

Why did it fail in this case?

She is now dating a fairly charismatic kind of guy who is liked by many, but is not your traditional alpha. To the extent where she dreams of marrying him...after so little time. She met him one week after her encounter with Captain Awesome.

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This very example puzzles me.

I suppose my question is:
"Why would she pick the more beta option, when presented with what is stereotypically seen as a much better catch a week prior?"

My guess is that she's had bad experiences with dominant men and wanted to try something new.

And I hope you take everything a female says with a grain of salt. Who's to say she isn't humping another version of Captain Awesome right underneath your nose?

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What makes you think the guy she pick is beta? Because just because the guy is not a lady's man doesn't mean he still can't be dominate. Dominance comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. I think you are actually misreading what is going on here, as it seems to me that your female friend finds the lady's man a turn off, not a dominate man. FYI, you don't need to be a lady's man to be dominate.

I don't know the proper answer for this question but i can tell you i myself have encountered people of this type but they are a minority so why worry at all.

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Vin DiCarlo's Pandora's Box system applies here.

He categorizes women within certain personality types. Some are attracted to some things, some attracted to others. Theoretically, if you understand his system, you can make the right sorts of approaches. I didn't learn it the whole way through, and can't answer beyond that, but yeah, girls are different.

There could be a myriad of explanations. It doesn't disprove social dynamics, it only shows how it can play out in pretty complex ways


The girl rejecting the "ladies man" - She was simply not attracted to him. A lot of girls do this, and like the girl in the example you gave, will brag about it by saying they rejected the guy that could bag every other girl. It's just a way for them to increase their own sexual market value. You know how girls always clarify "Well I'm the one that dumped him," how they always want to be "the one that got away?" same idea.

Women will many times opt for guys that seem more beta, there are hundreds of different variables that play out in attraction. Game only helps in maximizing your chances, it doesn't guarantee you'll attract every girl possible. Sure that guy who was more beta might have been able to attract that girl, but if you put both him and your standard Alpha in a vacuum, and see who could part more labials per hour, the standard would win. The exceptions do not make the rule.

And there are a lot of times when girls have told me they didn't sleep with ________ because he WAS an Alpha, because they didn't want to be like "every other girl out there." You need to remember that a girl's anti-slut defense is almost as powerful as her hamster.

And finally, many women in our era are denatured and will desire to wear the pants in a relationship. It doesn't mean Game will become an expired pursuit or that it's inapplicable, it will just change to include new concepts. Butch Lesbians can be gamed also, you just need a touch of feminine-beta-vulnerability-game like Rudolph Valentino.

Everything and everyone, from Gay men to lesbian mermaids and even inanimate objects can be Gamed. Nothing is safe. You can seduce anything through sheer masculine will.

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most of those girls who hate "players" are not regularly pursued by "players".

or more properly, "alpha males"...

bet if Captain Awesome (to quote a previous poster) started aggressively pursing her, turning up the heat, escalating, and gaming her...he would be in that ass quicker than two jiggles.

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