(I hate reading long posts, so there's a TL;DR summary at the bottom, however anything underlined is important.)

This is my first time actually posting on these sort of forums, but I've been reading them for a long time. This place has been amazing and my life has changed a lot since discovering it.

Now, I really like this girl - she's absolutely amazing. We've been getting along great and been very flirty. For instance, the other night we got into a whip cream fight and she totally enjoyed it, calling me a jerk while laughing hysterically.

She just got out of a relationship about 3 weeks ago which lasted about a month and a half. Two days ago, I heard from a mutual friend (very reliable) that she is not going to date for a while and enjoy the single life unless the perfect guy comes along.

I really like this girl and I want to ask her out before I accidentally fall into the friend zone. What should I do?

TL;DR Summary: Amazing girl, we flirt a lot, I wanna ask her out, she just got out of a relationship 3 weeks ago, how do I go about this?

Eh, if you think ppl are gonna TL;DR this then you may have ADD (lol jk ofc but dude that was pretty concise so don't worry about it).

So what exactly do you expect people to say? It's not different in any significant way from any other situation where a guy wants to ask out a girl. The only thing I can say is don't listen to what girls say, especially not things like that.

Just ask her out. And stop putting her on a pedestal, I'm sure she's nice but don't let yourself exagerate it.

Game other girls, because abundance will teach you that no girl is that special.

It will teach you that (almost) every girl is that special.

Thanks for your replies.

I guess I was more asking:
- Should I wait a little longer, or go for it now?
- How should I ask her out? Like, invite her to a movie? Dinner?

Avoid your desire to 'spill the beans'. You want to say a few magic words to make her go, "OK", so you can commence sucking face. You want to create some magic date so that she'll think, "Oh . . . so, this is a romantic date, let's commence sucking face." - This stuff only happens in the movies. Here's a better way:

1. Get one on one.
2. Flirt.
3. Suck face.


1.
http://cdn2.pick-up-artist-forum.com/pr ... sc&start=0

2.
Chat, joke, laugh, kino. Start off with high fives which easily transitions to holding hands. She says some dumb thing and you go, "Oh, isn't that cute." - then you give her a peck on the cheek. Now a peck on the cheek, hand holding, and hugs are on the table. All of these things are acceptable and fun activities.

On the next peck on the cheek, you grab her chin and pull her towards you . . .

3. Suck face.

4. I don't know how old you are but if you're in high school . . . and you'd like to keep this one for a girlfriend, #3 is a nice way to finish for now. Good luck.

Kasabi - thank you very much! I'm going to give it a shot. That post on the link is awesome btw.

Sidenote: I find it so much easier to do this stuff when I don't actually care about the outcome. This is the first girl in a long time that I actually like and I'm completely off my game.

^This is not a performance based assessment but rather just your fear of 'nervousness'. What you're saying is 'feeling nervous' = hard and 'not feeling nervous' = easier.

"Not Caring" is the domain of morons who have never succeeded in anything significant in their lives. They might feel less nervousness but they don't feel much of anything else either. They don't do anything in particular and if by chance something good happens, they don't give a shit about that either.

"Caring" about this girl is a good thing. Caring + a good strategy = good results and good emotions. Don't fight the nervousness. The amount of nervousness that you will endure through this process is a positive experience. Your heart is pumping blood to your brains to focus. Your memory actually improves. Your reactions improve.

On the other hand, 'caring' + NO STRATEGY can often lead to fear induced heart rates above optimal performance levels. For that, check out:

heart-rate-cognitive-performance-and-ap ... 22470.html

Good luck.