Hey guys, so I'm in a situation here.

There is a girl I like, in fact we're pretty close now. She found out she had cancer a few months ago, and is now staying in my town for SPAM. (It's curable!)

3 weeks ago I made a move on her, and we kissed.
For the next 3 weeks things have been very on and off, and only last night were we sexual (yet did not have sex).

We didn't have sex and didn't get sexual for 3 weeks because she is extremely conflicted due to her situation. I got a lot of LMR from her, I had to restart three times. And just within the heat of the moment she would stop, back off and say "I can't do this."

She's comfortable with me and I asked her what she's afraid of. And she said that once she starts SPAM on Monday she won't be able to do this anymore. I said I understood completely (and I had promised her previously to be there for her, and still will be, all throughout her SPAM).

The thing is she likes me (she initiated the third attempt at sex last night, only to back off again), but feels she can't give me what she'd like to because of her current situation, her illness.

Now, I like this girl, and wish to be there for her throughout SPAM. However, my question is as follows: Is there a way to NOT fall into the friendzone in the next 8 months of her SPAM? For one one hand I truly wish to care for her, yet on the other I do want to stay out of the friendzone. And I know I shouldn't be caring about whether or not I'll get with her in 8 months. But is there a way to stay out of the friendzone here?

Thanks guys

The difference between guys who are in the friendzone and guys who aren't in the friendzone is the fact that guys that aren't in the friendzone know how to kino. That simple.

The other guys won't even kino, or do kino incorrectly.

Dude, she's got cancer and is about to embark on a harrowing SPAM course.

She needs your support, don't turn this into a game. Be there for her and help her through this, if anything it will strengthen your bond and could potentially lead to a deep and lasting love.

She could be afraid of sparking up feelings should the worst case scenario arise. In a situation like this, showing that you're a caring, good man is the only real move you can make and she won't forget it. There are mitigating circumstances here that should ensure you won't be friendzoned.

This is also what I thought, and I will definitely put her needs above any of my own selfish needs.

If she's attracted to u u wont fall into the friendzone, just be there for her that's an attractive quality in and of itself.


This friendzone stuff is retarded, I've hungout with girls for a long time, let them cry on my shoulder, talk endlessly to me, and I ve fucked them way down the road.

Yeah, don't sweat it, I very much doubt you'll be friendzoned in this situation. Not being there for her would be the thing that would fuck it up for sure. Dating, love and relationships are going to be the last things on her mind.

There are situations that transcend game, this is one of them for sure.

People always say you're never supposed to be an emotional sponge or a rock for them because you'll just be another girlfriend for them, but there are definitely situations where the reverse is true. When something big like this that is having a huge effect on her happens, doing some of the "friendzone stuff" is probably a good thing!

A friend of mine who has good game met a girl, a couple of weeks later she lost both her parents. He was there for her, he cared for her and he really was a comfort to her and a rock. Did he get friendzoned? No way, they're coming up for their three year anniversary.