The girl I've been dating, just for a re-cap about 3/4 weeks ago she came back to my place and drunkenly I asked her when we should make it 'official'


She hesitated and said that shes still hurting from a past break-up (she got ditched by some guy because they didnt really get along well and it hurt her).


Over the next 3/4 weeks I've seen alot more of her and we've had sex plenty of times.


Last wednesday we went for a meal and then for drinks, once we were sort of tipsy the conversation went a little like this:


Her: *******?

Me: Yeah?


Her: Oh I dont know how to say this I feel stupid

Me: Go on


Her: Well, we get on so well, I mean we havent had one falling out or disagreement...and its crazy how comfortable we are in each others presence when we've only really known each other like 2 months.


Me: Yeah I suppose that could be true...but its hardly anything to fret over...its positive surely?


Her: Yeah! I dont mean its a bad thing its just....well I had this ex who broke up with me [either she forgot she mentioned this drunk the last time or something]...and it hurt me but now if I ever see or hear about him I'm like 'what was I so upset for...' and then I think about you and smile


Me: Well thats good to hear, yeah we seem really compatible so far


Her: Yeah it was definitely me who was attracted first I think?

Me: Really? I didnt put a time table on anything ha


Her: Yeah it was just around halloween! You were asking the dj to play some song and I was at the booth too and just thought ******* is hot ha'

Me: haha oh really, thats nice


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Since wednesday we've had some fucking good sex, she's climaxed again and again which is always good to sort out early ha.


From this conversation...do I change my game at all? We're still not 'official' in the facebook etc sense of official, should I approach this topic again? Granted she sort of brushed it aside the first time I asked drunk...but with last weeks conversation it sounds like the ex is out of her system and she seems really keen on me.


Thought? Thanks

I have the feeling she calls all the shots here. She was this, she was that, her boyfriend, YOU want to make it official, you ASK her to make it official, YOU want to change your game...

I hope she is not using you as a rebound and getting her "nice guy" fix, cause she seems in need of that right now.

Do you game other girls? Do you have other options? If you did, you wouldn't worry about petty things like this. If you can have other girls and still want a relationship with this girl, that's great. Let her see that. Nothing works with indecisive girls better that jealousy. Than you make sure to tell her I want more from you.

One more thing. When a girl meets "a special guy" she wants to hold on to him. Become that guy. Guy who has this mindset "I dare you walk away from me, please walk away from me". A guy who knows she can't find someone like that. Instead of yours "Please be with me" mindset.

Hope this will help you with future girls as well.

Best of luck,
Defy

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Some good points, but I stress she compliments me a lot, says I am amazing, good looking etc.


I'm yet to go round to her place yet as she lives with her parents...but something is in the pipeline regarding that?


Other options? There is one other girl I can definitely screw again but other than that no, I have sort of stopped number closing girls because I am really into this girl.


The relationship we have going on is very sexual...I'd say its a good balance between that side and all the other mushy stuff.


In fact, she's coming round to mine later tonight...we're going out with friends to an event and some cool bars then she is staying here tonight so more sex.


Another line I remember from her last week: 'its just quite strange in a good way, every other relationship I've had theres been something missing or some sort of bad point but between us there isnt anything like that'


Is it really correct to ask HER after asking once already? Granted things have gotten sexual since I last asked and all these recent revelations make it sound like she is bang into me.