hey guys,

I totally fucked up, but am willing to move on and learn from the experience.

Met girl online...talked for a while. ended up going first date...went well but no kiss. Talk on and off...go on second date, things go well but no kiss. Third date...theres built up sexual tension and end up hooking up night before new years. Few days later....ask what she did for new years and i figure out she hooks up with dude. I get upset, and now she wants to be friends.

Words that stick in my mind from our conversation: nice guy, friends

I have a feeling this is a common story and I'm pretty sick of it. I'd like some constructive criticism.

Many people will say I was too needy. What are something you guys to deal with that feeling?

Ask you this

Why did you got upset if she is not your g/f?

Why too needy with this girl?

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Right....

I know I have some deeper issues. I hate to admit it but I am insecure of myself.

I just graduated from university. But have no job, so I feel like I have no identity. I wasn't able to make a smooth transition from school to work, but I have been putting myself out there. I'm also insecure about my physical appearance. I feel I am kind of short and I'm alright looking but kind of have a funny nose. But how do I overcome things like this that I am born with?

Also...I am a virgin, this bothers me and am not so proud of saying it offline. But Im putting it out there because I'm ready to accept things and move forward.

Responses/advice/etc would be greatly appreciated!

Economy is really bad SPAM, so its normal. So just keep trying something will come up.

How do you overcome it? Just accept it... And understand that girls dont give looks that much importance how they thing they do.

Improve your inner game, go to gym, eat healthy , nice clothes and you will see the difference. And realize that even Brad pitt in his younger days had problem getting a date. So looks are not that important. Mostly the tops Puas outhere, are not what we consider good looking, so if they are getting some why not you?

Virginnity is overated? Well only if you are alone in the world being the only one? Oh you are not so, relax it will happen, try and have fun... thats the most important thing. Take that pressure out of your shoulders .

Consider this your learning curve, next time it will go smoother.

Just try and squeeze in read and experiment as much as you can... but in the end have fun... trust me having fun will change your life completly.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

First thing im taking with me is to "have fun" Now that I look back, i took myself and things way too seriously. Think I have a need to prove myself and forget to enjoy life sometimes. Thanks for helping me realize!

I work out and eat very well but will do some research on inner game. any books or links you might think I should look into?

First thing im taking with me is to "have fun" Now that I look back, i took myself and things way too seriously. Think I have a need to prove myself and forget to enjoy life sometimes. Thanks for helping me realize!

I work out and eat very well but will do some research on inner game. any books or links you might think I should look into?

Cool, so you understand.

You asked for book recommendations, The Power of Now.