I want to become a hell of a lot more charming. I was talking to my girlfriend and she was saying charming people have it in their eyes which makes no sense to me, she says you're either born with it or your not.

Is this true? I know being a PUA artist is being charming but i want to be charming like Will Smith and George Clooney.
I don't hang around charming people so i can't see how a charming person is in and around crowds or new people.

And how do you smile with your eyes? lol

Most people certainly are born with it , well learned it as a spoil little kid getting everything they want.. I'm one of those, but anything can certainly be learned. You just have to be willing to do what it takes to learn it; which is putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, time and time again, accepting failure over and over until success breeds.

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Certainly. No one is born charming. Babies are not charming they are cute. You learn to be charming overtime by putting your humor and wit to test continuously interacting with people and seeing what works what doesn't.

You like George Clooney, then watch a couple of his movies and look at the way he interacts, talks, looks around. Watch his interviews.

When people have a real smile the cheeks go up and the eyes get smaller. In a fake smile only your cheek goes up. There are some online reading you could get on this.

Well, you can be charming. I don't believe in such a thing like you're born with it. And I don't think MJ was born with his voice. Do you think Lebron James or Micheal Jordan was born being the best basketball player. It's a skill like charming. Dude, When I joined my high school, I saw all my friend were pretty good basketball player and I envied them, and I couldn't even do a lay up then nor shoot with precision. It was this one day I got so determined to play basketball and I went to my friend who knew basketball to teach me some stuffs or their moves. I saw different videos on ball handling and stuff. I learned to do lay ups and in different styles, I could do even my friend's techniques even better than them since I trained with 'em. And as I learned to do lay up and my next aim was to dunk. I hit the gym, worked on my vertical leap. And the 360 doesn't even make me sweat. You can do or learn any skills or be charming or be witty and whatever you wanna be. Impossible is nothing. But you'll need perseverance and patience; which are the key to everything you achieve. It's a quote.

You should try watching a few videos, interviews of Will Smith and George Clooney. I recommend you watch 'The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air' starring Will Smith. It's funny and his movie 'Hitch' which is one of my favorite movies about dating. The movie Fired up is good too. Good Luck.

More: There is a book by Steve Scott, 24 traits of an Alpha Male. It's a great book.

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It's all about Warmth. This is something you 'are'. It isn't verbal, it isn't non-verbal. It's just present because you are. The closest to describe is being at full ease. A short blink, a smile, slow gestures.

To an extent it can certainly be learned. The time needed depends on how awkward you are socially, but it can be done. I hate using lines like just be confident bro, but it does have a lot to do how confident you are. The more confident you get, easier it will be and more genuine. I don't know how one acquires wit though.

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