I always imagain the girl the have a boyfriend. it results in me pussying out alot. How do i over come this fear?

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There's just as good of a chance of her NOT having one. Who gives a shit? The only way of knowing whether she has one or not is to talk to her and see if she brings him up in conversation.

Start imagining the girl to NOT have a boyfriend. If she has one, most of the time they won't even mention the bf. And even if she does, pretend like you didn't even hear her.

Well, either she has got one or not, you're not jealous right?

Play your game right and she wont mind if she have a boyfriend or not.

May I ask if you have the same fear of rejection? Cuz it's just what it is, just another type of rejection.... in worst case!

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// Zwede

It's actually one of the best (well, least worst) kinds of rejection, because it's nothing personal, just a situational thing. Bit like "No, I'm a lesbian".

Yes! Exactely! "the worst cAse" input was only because it isn't Evert girl with à boyfriend that Will shoot you down.


Im from Sweden and writing from my phone. Thats why it looks à bit off with grammar and such..

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// Zwede

If she says she has a boyfriend go "Great, maybe he can make us dinner some night!"

Why even bother? Say thanks and move on. A "i have a boyfriend" is very rarely a "please, try harder!" It's just as [danthedan] Said; it's nothing personal. She's just not there to get picked up but merely have fun with her friends without all creepy guys stalking around.

If it is in a later part of the game however, like when you are kino escalating and she Tells you, something like; "no, we really shouldn't, i have à boyfriend". It's just the same when you are out looking for a new teve and you tell the salesman/woman; "i'm just here to look! I'm not going to buy anything!" you are not telling this to the salesman/women. You're trying to convince yourself, or in this case, she is trying to remind her self of that boyfriend of hers. Which you've done à great Job of making her forget! ;-)

Just say something in line with; "wooah, you haven't even bought me à drink yet bit still you think i'm hitting on you? Well, either we let this awkwardness continue or we go and fetch me that drink now, what do you say?"

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Thanks for replying

I have a fear that me in general talking to a hot girl will result in me getting in trouble with other guys, thats the kind of thing im talking about, it always holds me back from lets say messaging girls on facebook (some online sarging). I get terrified im messaging a stranger, a new tribe.

Couple months ago, I messaged a hb9, we eventually met up from facebook. Im not sure why i keep feeling like this.

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Assume she doesn't have a boyfriend. You know no different.

Why are you scared of getting in trouble with guys?

Well lets say if i sarge a girl on facebook. I never knew she had a BF. the evidence is there in black and white, is it just me feeling like this?

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