| Having this same problem right now, for the first time in my life (I wonder if this is that love bullshit people keep talking about?). This is not easy to overcome. It's painful. But it's doable and there's a solution to it. Like there is for just about everything in life. Here are five things I found that help with this:
1. Find something to keep you busy. Challenge yourself to do more than you're currently doing. Too much free time = obsessive thinking about her. Take up a sport. Work more. Set out to learn a new skill set. Adopt a dog and train it. Make some new friends.
Some ideas:
Basketball, baseball, martial arts, archery, marksmanship, learning a new language, learning nlp, dog training, wall climbing, le parkour, geo tracking, volunteer at your local community, salsa, breakdancing, yoga, dirt bikes, quads, drawing, painting, learn to play an instrument, photography, get some books and learn about astronomy, astrophysics, philosophy, history, religion....
Thousands of things you can do while you're alive on this planet. Some useful, others less. Do whatever sounds interesting and relevant to you.
2. Social life. When you're hanging out with your friends you're generally not thinking about your girl. It's relaxing.
3. Go for a walk and count how many beautiful women you see. Become aware that there are many, many women out there to choose from and that this isn't going to change any time soon. Beautiful women are like buses, there's another one coming in 2 minutes.
If you need to go out and seduce women to achieve this, then that might be worth looking into.
4. Become aware that even if you lose this one, you'll just be more prepared for the next one. You're a man. You don't have to worry about getting old. You'll just be the refined older gentleman. I mean look at Sean Connery.
Write the bold statement into a notebook. It'll permeate into your subconscious that way. This is a good method for changing your beliefs. You can do the same with statements like:
"I do not need any girls validation. They, on the other hand, need mine."
"The seduction process is the man's responsibility."
Or anything you want that's relevant to being needy/clingy.
5. Have the opposite of a fantasy. Imagine yourself losing the girl. Imagine what it would feel like. If you're doing it right what you'll feel is physical pain and despair. You might want to cry. Don't run from it. Accept it. Imagine yourself dealing with it. Imagine living the rest of your life without her, what it would be like.
Drag it out as long as you can. It's a sort of catharsis.
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