i need some straightforward advice, the truth!
i really like this asian chick from school, shes 22 years old and pretty foreign, i think she lived in the us for like 4 yrs im 20 btw
we've been talking via text for 2 months
we have hung out outside of school, like 3 times? twice with other friends around, once alone.
she never ignores my text, sometimes replies hours later though.
i ussually text her first, but if i feel like ive been too clingy i stop and days later she will say something to start a convo. or say stuff like i didnt see u today etc.
so we video chatted for abot 4 hours!!!!i asked her to vid chat cuz i was bored a she was all awkward but then nonchalantly said how do u vid chat on iphones and during the chat i told her she was adorable, and beautiful and she said, yea ok! cool, thanks... then kinda looked away from the camera. she was so shy and insecure about looking into the camera it was kinda awkward. but then i asked her to hang out this week and she was like maybe because her mom was visiting from china tomoro and she doesnt wanna promise anthing and have to bail. i said sure some other time.
i txted her the next day saying how was your day with your mom
no reponse. she never ignored me before... kinda awkward thought she was busy showing nyc to her mother....
then 2 days later i txted her wats up
we talked for a bit then she said im leaving nyc tommoro!
sorry we didnt get to hang out but happy new years etc.
shes going back to china
what i dont get is if she has been txting me for this long, hanging out with me, video chatting with me, being shy and awkward all just cuz she is being nice to me? or do i have a chance with her? does anyone know shy asian girls ?? its so hard to understand what she is saying lol such a cultural language barrier.... she also said "you lower your standards with me huh??" im pretty pimp usually and my facebook has pics of me with madddd pretty girls, none of whom r asian. im very confused as to how to approach this. im oppsessed with this girl i wanna make her my girlll..... im pretty good looking id say, she is not like spaking hot, jsut like wholesome and pretty and i think she might be a virgin o.0 i want her innocence!!!

You'll have to convince her she meets your standards and you'll have to convince her she isn't a game to you.

She is a insecure person, and shy about herself. Reveal you vulnerabilities, and show her that you like her based on who she is, not her looks.

Asian girls are an interesting bunch. It took me a while to learn how different they are in terms of romancing an Asian girl, mostly from conversations between myself and my parents.

I know for a fact in Vietnamese culture, it's taboo for a girl to tell a man she likes him. I don't know how Chinese culture is, but I'm sure its pretty similar. It seems like women get all the power when it comes to relationships. It's normal for men to go up to a single girl and hit on her, while she gets to pick and choose which sucker she's going to play with for a while. So you have to take that into account. So just because she's hanging out with you in public, or having SPAM chats with you, she's most likely doing the same thing with other guys too. If you're hell bent on making her your girl, hang out with her in big groups (Asian girls are big on this...must be a social status type deal), and show interest in her culture and her family (Asian girls are also big on this).

Looking past the culture thing though, I think you'll have to pay close attention to how she responds to you. Because you're going to be hanging out with her in big groups where there will be other guys, take notice of simple IOIs and body language...you can get a feel of how she sees you by those signs. The culture may be different, but female behavior is the same throughout the world man.

i understand exactly what your talking about... we did hang out in groups most of the times, and she was talking to me 80% of the time. how do i get her to hang out with me alone? everytime i ask she has some sort of excuse... i see her talk a lot more openly with other guys, and shes friendlier and more outgoing with them than me. with me shes very tamed and half as outgoing i feel like. idk if im being delusional and wanna think she likes me or if shes extra awkward around me. she gets really quiet when im talking to another hot chick , she says hi quick and walks away fast ... like she wouldnt be awkward if i meant nothing to her correct? and 4 hour video chat?? the thing is she never txted me that often though.. its all mixed signals ... always apologized for replying late to a text, i thoguth it was her being really nice.. im confused, u need to clarify what situation IM in...

Have you tried escalating with her physically? One thing I notice is that most of the guys talking to Asian girls dont have the balls to lay their hands on the women. It sounds like she's treating you a bit differently from the rest of the crowd, which is a good thing. See how she responds to you from any kind of physical contact.

I hear you about the excuses thing though, to me excuses are excuses. But again comes the culture situation. I know of some Asian parents who won't even think of letting their daughter date until they've graduated college. So the only way these girls can meet up with a boy is to either lie to their parents (meaning the guilt and disrespect that comes with it) or go out with their friends (which parents are a little more lenient with). Next time you go out with her and her friends, use some isolation tactics to give yourself a short minidate with her.

ive asked her to hang out and she seems hesitant, one time me and my friends were eating at a restraunt and saw her walk by with her friend and got really shy while walking into the same place,she had been ignoring my text and as soon as i said whats up she was all sympathetic over why she was too busy to reply.... ive grabbed her and hugged her and stuff and she doesnt respond any differently tome than any other guy,if anything less physical with me. i guess mymain question is,would this chick really text me back and forth and still be oblivious to me being interested in her? does she like me back or is she just playing stupid and shy just to avoid awkwardness. I dont know if i should keep pursuing her, and how i should approach it.

i just need to know the difference between a girl being nice and not wanting to hurt your feelings,and a shy insecure girl who has trouble expressing her true feelings. like does this girl like me or is she just plain nice?? why would she video chat with me for 4 hours until 6am in the morning?? should i msg her or anything while she is away on vacation??? or is that too clingy??? should i wait for her reply?

Make her feel special man. It`s not about the game in your case anymore. But don`t be a hung-up!! And always texting her and all that shit. Let her be free, but at the same time, make her feel special, with how you treat her. These kind of girls are complicated as hell, so..Don`t be needy, be a nice guy in the terms of still being a dominant one and an alpha. But she must see that you really care for her. Don`t tell her that, show her.
I know this isn`t really a PUA answer, but in your case, you have to calibrate some things and do it by yourself, otherwise you will fuck it up. Good luck

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I remember when I was first seeing my ex's who were Asian were very shy too. Even after building some comfort and rapport with them, I wasn't sure if they liked me. At this point you need to stop asking questions and just go in for a kiss like I did.

Take her for some bubble tea