So we're taught to do stuff like this alot:

I'm a _______.

"Wow you're a ______ !that's so great! I think it's so awesome that you do ___________. -> Followup question about _______



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How do you get yourself into that headspace where you can just keep doing this for most different kind of ______ congruently? What helped you make this natural?

I'm interested in other people in general. But they mention a hobby they do or job and ugh, I need to get that energy and OOOMPH to it and get excited or at least enthused so I don't fucking kill the convo.

it is not about i'm a _______

it is about setting out behaviors and preferences that you would like to see, and when they ''qualify'' to the preference, you reward

examples.

you know it's funny, but every time I ..... (set out a few of these until a pattern forms and if she begins laughing she is qualifying for you) (this can also be interchanged with any other description you would like her to relate to the next story/statement)

I like/love/hate.... (if she likes that thing too or presents the behavior that you are setting a preference to, she is qualifying)

no on can ever do this thing/no one has ever made me (she says she can do that thing she is qualifying to impress)

I only date girls that can _______, can you ______? (if she can, qualified)

you seem like a ____ person.... (she agrees and says yes I am that kind of person state your preference for her following your frame as the reward and it has now become a qualification)


you're not a _______ type of girl are you? (usually setting a preference agaisnt something, she says no im not that, she is qualifying, you can switch this one up and use it for teasing, ''too bad i like those kinds of girls'')


there are so many ways to qualify, and so many ways to validate/de-validate for her qualifications/dis-qualifications


you can firgure your own ways to validate/de-validate that you find less cheesey, you never need to use someones stalk material, just go find what works for you and do some testing, just think in terms of, good behavior, hit on her, bad behavior, make fun of her, it is pretty much that simple