I'm looking for advice. Whenever I talk to women, I never know what to say. I can think of all kinds of things I could've said afterward. But during, my mind goes blank and I just small talk'em, and that's only when they're still interested. What's a good mindset to have or a method to use to keep my thoughts in order and to keep the conversation from dying?

Any help is appreciated, and thanks in advance for any help received.

Be genuinely interested in her. Be eager to find out about her. Look around for things to talk about. Be emotional. The best public speakers I have seen and the best people with social skills are the ones that can describe their emotions. When you use your emotions to describe something you become descriptive. Emotions are endless therefore you can go on and on. Foe example you can say a story in a dull way like

Bad Story: " I was walking down the street and I saw some dude running naked across the street"

or you can say it like this
Good Way: " I woke up early in the morning today all tired wasn't in the mood to go outside at all but had to, so I go outside my hair is like all over the place on the road next to me there are like a whole bunch of cars and I see people around me laughing and I wonder what the hell happened. And I turn around and look and see some naked dude running on the road it between cars it was so funny."

See the difference one story is one line and the other same story is 5 times as big and much more interesting. The reason is because the second story is more descriptive. Be descriptive and you'll become much better at holding conversations.

- Amazing Art -

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Duly noted, Mr. Amazing. Being.descriptive and searching for environmental cues are great tips.

I think what really helps is to have standards (don't count looks). So you will naturally start qualifying her and act normal around her. Your mind is just normal and your behave like your hanging out with your friends

Standards and also beliefs. Have strong spiritual and personal beliefs. Read books, The Power of Now is great, that you can either agree or disagree with, so that you find your own true center.

Any hobby is good, having topics you can talk about will take you places.

Hi Radical Righteous,

If I'm correct, you can do the approach and start the conversation but you can't maintain the flow. right? Here's what I think you should do. Now Amazing Art just gave you a good example of the way to talk about think. Yes, be descriptive.

You should watch a lot of movies and music, those are good things to talk about when meeting people. Learn the art of story telling, you could tell her the story of a movie that you liked to her to keep up the conversation and always be fun to be around. No one wants to be with a guy who can't be fun. Be hilarious, hilarious as if you were with a friend, do the cocky-comedy..

Notice the little things about her like her chain, dress and hair. And share you stories, stuffs about your view on fashion etc.

Read a lot of book, facts and stuffs. You'll never run out of stuffs to say.. Imagine you're with a friend or you two are out somewhere. It isn't necessary to always engage in a conversation with her or you should be doing a never ending conversation with her. If you were with a friend and you two didn't talk for like half an hour, playing games or stuffs or while eating, nothings gonna happen in your relationship with your friend 'cause there is already a connect. So, first create a connection and the conversation will come natural to you. The first five minutes is the crucial, that the time you should take to get the attention and establish a connection.

When you open be confident. The easiest way is to have an attitude that you care less about the outcome like win or loose, you're gonna have fun and if you screwed up, you only learned more.. lost nothing.

More on getting topics. When your minds goes blank, Ask her questions relating to what she said on the previous reply. And add your share. Always ask open ended question 'cause the next question lies in her answer and if you do the yes-no type, it's gonna be hard to come up with the next one in certain situations. You can use the Yes/No type to check her interest, if she ask you back, she interested else, be more fun. These are all I can think of SPAM, I'll add when the rest comes to my mind, hopefully.

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