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From there, pay constant attention. You don't need to be talking, even being silent for long periods of time is fine, just always pay complete attention to what's going on. You will always be ready to jump at the right opportunities.
As for dealing with guys. To start, don't pay them any attention, beyond getting their name. When they tell a story, take note of their behavior. Are they interested in what you think of their story? Does their story involve people you don't know, and if it does, do they explain the unknown parts? What is their body language toward you?
If they are trying to be friendly to you, be friendly back. Clap them on the back, listen to their stories, laugh and joke with them, even sometimes ignoring the girls for this purpose.
If they are trying to push you out, if they are resentful of you, you do the opposite. Ignore their stories by starting another conversation quietly with the female beside you. Pick out certain points of their stories that make them look bad, then ignore them and change the subject when they try to defend themselves. Basically box them out of the conversation, thereby ruining their internal state. After you've done that, they won't take much effort, their own angry, sad, or disappointed mind will keep them from doing well with the group.
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