Okay so, I'm new to this pick-up thing. I've read The Game & Double your dating but I've never field tested any of the techniques I've learned. Mostly because I'm a AFC. Anyways this might be a little off topic from the whole pick up thing but I need some answers and I need them fast. You guys seem to be the experts. Anyways...

So today I was going out to dinner by myself at a restaurant and there was a football game on the TV, usually I would have company so I can chat but since I had no company I ended up with my eyes glued to the TV and eating my dinner. (I don't really watch football) Half way through my meal a lady walks by and puts a napkin on my table saying "you dropped this" and she quickly left before I could really see her. Well... on the napkin was a name and a phone number...

So here I have a few questions.
When do I call this stranger? I have no idea who she is or what she looks like.
I want to invite her to my friend's new years party. Is it too early? Should I go on a date first before inviting her?
What do I do? I've never been on a date!!!!

Thanks your input on this matter will help me soo much!

this is awesome! haha i wish that would happen to me!
Whenever, it doesnt really matter. As a general rule of thumb, dont call straight away to show you can play it cool for a bit and show you arent needy, but also not too late or she will lose interest.

However in this situation I would call either straight after, to ask just who the hell she was, although you've obviously gone home already, so I would call the next day!
being a girl she probably already has plans for NYE... but hey, this is good because you can invite her then if she says shes busy you can organize another time!

or tell her you want to see if shes your type before you invite her out to a party... so you can meet her before as well.

Stop stressing yourself out! who said anything about a date??? dont call it a date, it will take the fun out of it!

Just tell her you want to know the identity of this mystery woman because you never got to see her but you are intrigued! tell her to meet you out for a drink at __ location at __ time! and this time she has to stay for a drink before she disappears again! whatever you want man!

See how there's no pressure like that, its just fun. After the drink, she can leave if she wants. If you both have fun, you can stay for a few more then take it where you want.

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hello,

Ok, First, lets blow this balloon and get back to reality:

You admit that you are a bit AFC'ish, never tried any technique etc, etc. You never been on a date, etc. All of a sudden, life smiles at you and hell, you decide that now is the time to at least sign up and ask questions here. Dont get me wrong, you are darn right to come here, and you are darn right to ask you questions. I dont know what your expectations are with this mystery woman, but i hope you dont believe that we instantly transform you into casanova 2000. That just aint possible.

now, breaking bad already gave you some excellent advice.

I would go after her as well, if not reachable, call her the next day. Hey, what can i say, i would be freaking curious! I like women who are strong and take initiative and who can do it in an elegant way, so i would tell her that. Then i would say that you are curious about who she is and that we should meet, for a drink, a coffee a whatever it is you would like be doing.

As for the "date" itself: Be honest. That is the main headlight. Be honest to yourself and towards her. Concretely that means: if she dressed up nice and you htink she is pretty/gorgeous/just smoking sexy, tell her! and not after 2 hours when you finally found a way of how you would tell her, no. Tell her when it comes to you mind! be honest!

Also, if you are honest to yourself, you do want to know who she is right? So ask good open ended questions about things you would want to know. Like, not only what her job is, but does she like her job or not? Why? if not, would be her dream job? why? Is there something in her life she is passionate about? something she could do all day and never get tired of it? What are her dreams, etc. You get the point. You dont want to stay on the surface, you want to get to know her!

So in short: be relaxed (you have a bit of anxiety there, that is normal). Be honest and be interested in her. If she isnt really much of a talker, make her talk. Ask the question and wait for the answer while you look expectingly in her eyes .

As overall: You should perhaps see this as your first step towards pickup. You are in luck, cause you dont have to approach this time. See it as an invitation to learn more. we are happy to help you.

well, hope i helped out a bit as well. Good luck!

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Sucker love I always find,
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First off, thank your for your input. It put my mind at ease. I was thinking back to who was there at the restaurant and I think I know who this girl might have been. There was a table straight ahead of me in the direction of the wall mounted TV. It was a 5 set and 2 HB's were facing pretty much at my direction. It has to be one of them. Maybe they thought I was staring at them or something.

Anyways, in the midst of this major confidence boost I might have ended up acting like a AFC as usual... I called the girl around 10pm and it went straight to voicemail. Her voice mail sounded really cute and I panic haha... then the AFC in me came out.

So on the voicemail I introduced myself and said "I found her name on a napkin" probably sounded like a total idiot since she obviously gave it to me on purpose. Realizing how dumb I sounded I continued on saying I should probably return it to her and she should call me back then I hung up without saying bye.

I rehearsed what I was going to say but in the end I choked and ended up sounding really stupid haha.

Well tomorrow I'm not expecting a call back but fingers crossed as I go to bed. What I did learn from this experience is that:

#1 I need to work on this nervousness with women... for god's sake it was only a voicemail with a cute sounding voice and I started talking like a dumbass.

#2 I can finally talk about my issues with girls without people judging me! My friends absolutely don't believe I've never had a girlfriend and still have my V card. I mean I'm happy for some reason they think I'm good with women but inside its killing me that in reality its the complete opposite.

#3 Girls are actually attracted to my looks! I've always kind of known this but getting it from a complete stranger really knocks my old belief of feeling not good looking enough for HB's.

#4 I need to start getting this lack of girl problem solved.

then you gotta confront it. which you did here, thats good. you want to improve? keep confronting it, it will slowly become less of a problem. Call more girls. Start talking to more.
yes! confront it! start talking to more.

you should start a journal!

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I'ma be what I set out to be, without a doubt undoubtedly, and all those who look down on me I'm tearin down your balcony, no if ands or buts, don't try to ask him why or how can he