| For the past two months I kept seeing this girl around and every time I did she'd always smile at me, and I'd smile back. Then around 3 weeks ago I finally met her when by sheer coincidence she was hanging out with some friends of mine. We hung out a couple times again, not by ourselves but with the friends as well, and she would always look at me, and talk to me, and I even heard her ask her friends about me (I don't think she knew I could hear). The point is that after only knowing her for a week and hanging out a couple times there were so many signs that pointed that she liked me that I went ahead and asked her out. She responded by saying, "I just met you and I don't know that much about you... you're very sweet and nice, but I kinda have a boyfriend". She didn't want to tell me anymore than that so I had to pry her friends for information and it turns out that her situation is complicated. Her and her boyfriend split up because he moved to one place and she moved to another. Her friends said that its ended hence implying that the long distance relationship is not being attempted, but she herself has said that there are still strings attached which is understandable given that the relationship only ended because they couldn't be together, not because they didn't like each other anymore.
I heard yesterday from a friend that she said to her boyfriend (or ex I guess) that they should start seeing other people - not that she is ready to necessarily, but rather just that she is starting to move on. A very good friend of hers then asked her out and she said that she would rather stay good friends rather than become more than friends. This friend then went on to tell her that I like her which isn't good because the obvious two first questions she'd ask are: (1) how do you know and (2) why are you telling me. I have no idea how he addressed these questions and it might've put me in an unfavorable light. Plus the girl might not like the fact that I'm talking about my feelings for her when she's already said she can't/doesn't want to go out with me.
This doesnt dissuade me from asking her out again because I really like her. When I asked her out she didn't specifically say no which means either she didnt want to hurt my feelings or she was perhaps open to something in the future - that maybe she can like me it's just that she needs more time to get to know me and more time to get over her ex. I don't mind spending that time because I really like this girl. The problem is I have no idea how to act.
(1) Firstly, how do I address the issue of this guy telling her that I like her. I could try and find out what he said, but assuming I can't which is most likely, what should I say? Those two are really good friends and I think he was trying to vouch for me by saying something like "Person X likes you and he's a good guy so go out with him". I just don't know what she said, plus she already knew I liked her so its just how she reacted is the issue.
(2) The second and more important issue is: how do I ask her out again/how do I make a move? We're only friends, not good friends. We only hang out when with other friends which won't happen again for over month (meaning I won't see her for over a month) - I can talk to her and ask if she wants to hang out, but that could be misconstrued as a date, which is what I would want but obviously she might not be ready for that.
The thing is... the ball is in her court because she knows I like her and that I already asked her out. So if she liked me even the slightest bit and was ready to go out, she would. Hence she either doesnt like me, wants to find out more about me, or needs more time to get over her ex. What can I say to her to at least convince her to give it a go?
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