I really wanted your advice on the many important steps on maintaining power and dominance over a girl.

Lot's of guys on this forum seem to show signs of giving the girl the power, including myself i will admit.

So I was thinking it would be really kool to have steps/instructions from people with experience on how to remain in control such that the girl would FEEL like you have control.

Thanks

and btw, a typical scenario is a girl in a class that you share in college or whatever

Yo mate!

Power and dominance over a girl? What do you mean by that? Do you mean like when a woman would be in a position that she would do absolutely anything so she wouldnt lose you?

I am sorry to say, but i find that nonsense actually. You should not worry about the power you have over others. For starters, if you want to do pickup, make sure you first got power over yourself, because that is the real problem actually.

Guys just can't control their emotions, their actions, their thoughts, because they are impatient, because they already fantasize on how great the outcome would be. It gets into their minds, like a splinter. then fear comes up, what if i would lose her? Then comes doubt: omg, what if i misread the signals, what would she really mean by this or that, etc. we all know the story.

Control yourself first.

cheers

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I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
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I think I know what the guy is saying, I think he means a position where the girl works as hard or harder than you and actually does a bit of chasing rather than you being the one doing all of the work. At least I hope thats what he means because wanting to have a girl who is dominated by you and does whatever you say is pretty creepy.

One way of doing this is to never be too available and show her that you have an interesting social life in a way that raises your value. For example if a girl texts you and says "hey fancy meeting up on wednesday?" then instead of texting back one minute later and saying "yeah im free on wednesday what do you want to do?" you should text back a several hours later and say something like "sorry about the late reply, (followed by a reason for the late reply), wednesday is a little tricky for me because (reason why you cant make wednesday) Thursday could be an option though" The late reply creates negative emotions by making her think you are not interested and the reply spikes her emotions as the reply means more to her because of the element of doubt you created. Women are also very emotional creatures and a guy who is super interested and always available is not a challenge, emotional spikes are the key to success.

You dont want to make her think you are not interested at all as this creates too many negative emotions but also lets her know that if she wants you she will have to work for your attention (without saying this obviously). Also USE THIS SPARINGLY!!! it loses its impact if you do it everytime she asks to see you. Another way is through the breaking rapport techniques I have learned from IMO the best PUA Adam Lyons.

I obviously don't mean power over a woman in a physical sense, I mean it in the sense whereby you do not let your emotions gain control over you and behave in a needy way. Tips would be helpful such as the whole texting back late thing, which I think is a great idea. Any more tips and advice like that would be sweeeeeet. As it shows that you are not needy of the girl

go out and meet alot of women, it is one thing to pretend that she holds little to no power over you, and to pretend to be non needy, it is another thing all together to actually not be needy, to really have other options and really have pre-selection, compared to the old fake it till you make it idea, actually go out and make it, it is all about how much you really care, you can pretend you don't care, but you will fuck it up somewhere down the line and she will realize that you do care, there is no secret way to take a girl off the pedastool and see her as just another girl besides actually just seeing her as just another girl, there are more girls out there then guys, it is them that have to risk being alone not you, realize if anything doesn't work out you can meet new girls, you don't have to impress them, you don't have to do anything special to get them, just lead them to do what you want, if they refuse to be led, don't get mad, don't try to figure out how to gain her approval and impress her, don't look for that magical way to re-gain her attraction, if it is there it was there from the beginning and you never lost it at all she is just not being compliant, move onto a new girl and it is quite possible she will realize she is blowing her chances with a great guy and come chasing you, don't chase, get chased, stop worrying about things that don't matter, you are the prize not her, you can always bring new girls into your life, some will work out no matter what, others wont work out no matter what, it is as easy to meet new women as you make it out to be, vagina is all around you, and the only thing that prevents you from access to it is the limitations your own ego places on yourself, a girl holds as much importance over you as you let her

Firstly let me say I AGREE with you 100% Even with my own situation I am trying to get to know more and more women and it does work. But I would like tips anyway on how to pretend because getting other women may take time. I am hoping this can be a thread on general tips on how to behave and act non-needy at least until you can get more women for real. If that makes sense? But I agree with you bro

you will get as much results as the effort you put into it, you can meet 10 new women a day, if you actually put the effort in to it, and 10 leads is enough that you won't feel like you need any specific girl, other then that, you can't fake it, your true congruence always will shine through, it will always be about what you are, not what you say, it is how you say it, your congruence with what you are saying, you have to actually not care, go out and meet other girls, she is not someone you love, if she hasn't had sex with you she is not the love of your life, and if you find yourself sitting there saying BUT SHE IS SPECIAL, IM IN LOVE WITH HER PERSONALITY, think again, if she was 400lbs overweight with a hiddeous face, would you still be needing her so bad because of her personality?, don't make excuses for yourself and meet new women, nothing is stopping you, nobody works 24 hours a day, if you don't have money to go to clubs, just go out anywhere during the day that you can find a woman, and talk to her, the only thing stopping you is yourself

http://www.theattractionforums.com/gene ... nance.html

I read this article a few days ago. It's fucken awesome.

GREAT link bro!! thanks

yes indeed, good article

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"Stop being a fucking vagina and escalate" - CaptainJackHarkness

Like the naked leads the blind.
I know I'm selfish, I'm unkind.
Sucker love I always find,
Someone to bruise and leave behind.
placebo - every me, every you