So I've been seeing this one girl for a while. I told her I'm happy to commit to her and not see any other girls (not because I don't want to hurt her or I'm in love) because the chase is long. I understand she doesn't want a relationship even though I'm 100% sure by now that its not because she wants other guys. She keeps telling me to go see other girls constantly and its a big turn off for me, because how can she say that to me after being intimate for almost 4 months? I asked for a girl's opinion and she said thats fine and she was in the same position herself where she felt she didn't want the guy to feel to commit to only her. I still don't understand, I thought that would change as she gets to like me more and more, and no doubt, she likes me a lot. I mean, I thought I had one-itis but I don't because I still enjoy flirting with girls but don't really chase as hard because I simply don't like the chicks in my area, never did. Anyone experienced anything like this before? What to do? Thanks in advance

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She tells you to see other girls just to see.what you do. If you want a relationship than frame and pursue that with her. Chicks never say exactly what they're thinking so if she keeps bringing up relationship in any terms she is probably trying to qualify you into that theme. If that's what you want with her than go for it...4 months is a good test of continuance.

I discussed earlier with her about 2 months into it about a relationship, I said I would be happy to. She didn't want to. I said ok, fair enough, I tried, but both me and her know we do everything like BF GF so I said whatever, don't put a title to it whatever, but let her know that if she ever meets up on a date with a guy in outside friendship terms, I will be out for good. I forgot to mention that after having stopped discussing the relationship for about a month, we had an argument..something something "why, so you can go fuck other girls?" is what she said, and also "if you're considering a relationship, be nicer to me" when we clearly closed the relationship topic. It surprised me that she's thinking about a relationship when she convinced me to stop thinking about one weeks ago...could this be because she's considering a relationship? First i always believed its a test, all traps are! but I passed, but is it normal for that to carry on? thanks dude

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Normally its best for a chick to ask for a relationship but in this case she is asking you for the lead. If this is what you want than take charge and be the leader and guide her...this sounds like where you want to be so just do it. She wouldn't be hanging around and hinting at things if this isn't what she wanted so just do it already.

I ain't playing games. I asked her many times before, she told me how she feels. I believe her, I know she's not lieing because her stories are consistent. So I am now doing a whatever put no title to it. She seems terrified by the whole relationship thought (due to her past reasons I'm aware of). But actually, we are like BF GF, subconcsiously. I haven't mentioned that, she also doesn't like to be seen much by our friends that we act as if anything is going on, even though they all know what's going on.

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Heh stop asking.and just tell her its not that complicated

sounds like she is playing a mindgame to me.

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