Dont get me wrong. Im not an obsessed AFC. I know other hot girls, let me tell you what happened.


So we were so close to fucking but somthing turned up, (father had a heart attack) and she even missed half a party to be with me. So i understood. She had to go. She was my first kiss. I am a virgin.


So we text each other every day pretty much. Everyday for 4 months.

We meet for the second time. She was much less enthusiastic, although we kissed many times. She went to a party that night. I had to go home to take care of my grandma.
There wasn't a point where she wasn't smiling. Cocky funny, disqualifiers, everything i unloaded on this girl. She said i was the most self assured guy she ever met. I take the piss out of her guy friends who constantly give her validation.

the next day, i text her. "You where the third best kisser yesterday!"

She never replied. So i apologised. She called me a fiend, and her textes gradually became to a hault.

Later on, im out drinking, and send her stupid messages like "Oh, if i tell you how i feel, you'll toss me aside like other guys".."i think i love you".So i previously asked for a high risk line on here, and said "Hey, im in the mood to eat some quality pussy. Although you've been out and about havn't you??"

She replied, (2 days later) "Fuck you."

Whilst all this was happening, we exhanged afew messages on facebook. They were very breif though. Not as near as long as they use to be. One liners from her.

So, as a final ditch to save this thing.

I sent: "Well, ive tried to resolve this relationship, but if you can't be arsed then neither can i. If you can't handle i was drunk last week, then thats fine too. You probably wont meet another guy like me for a long time. The next time we meet will be me playing at Glasturnbury (i'm in a band) Good bye mon cher."

That phone i used to send that then completley died that same night. (It was 12 years old).

So a weeks past. I have no idea if she replied by text because i have a new number.

She's on my facebook though.


Heres my question and plead for help. i cant stop thinking about her, and it's starting to piss me off. I literally CANT.

Now, im not obsessed here. I went out today, im trying to improve my game everyday. I know rejection is just part of the learning curve, and i have accepted she has gone. But why can't i stop thinking about her?

There's an even better looking and older girl in my school i flirt with, but still, i can't.

I wouldn't say im unhappy. Im playing guitar and it's somthing i love.

Christmas is coming up. Her birthday's on new years eve.

I changed my picture on facebook to me with a couple HB10s.

What do i do dudes...im completly stuck. Do i message her? If i tell her how i feel, it'll creep her out.

I think the reason i'm feeling like this is because i was so close to losing my V, and she is a really good looking girl.

You may of noticed small threads i've made about this girl, this is my final one explaining everything, and my last shot at what might already be dead, or to somthing amazing.

Anything at all, i already thank you for reading all of this.

-BB

Why do you lie to yourself? You ARE obsessed with her. If you weren't then you could actually stop thinking about her and wouldn't send her "I love you" texts regardless of whether you're drunk or not.

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Question... what was your point, with that third best kisser shit? Another question... how old are you?

Now you've said that you met once, and after that you kept just texting for 4 months. Then suddenly when you met again she was no longer interested that much, and after that she refused to answer your texts and called you a friend. What can be the cause for this? Are you blind? You haven't even fucked her, yet you think she didn't sleep with anyone for 4 montsh? You have to be kidding...

So what if... instead of uploading photos of yourself with HB10s on your damn facebook, you'd actually fuck some of them. And see if your thoughts are still around this bitch. Sorry dude...really no other way around it. You have to find pussy to get over her.

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I have read three of your previous posts and you told each girl you love her after 1 date(each girl you met online). Why do you continue?

Hmm, the continuous texting to her saying : i love you and shit like that fucked u up.. Then after she was ignoring you sent her a text saying she is the 3rd best kisser? You can't just keep pushing her on and on.. That shit doesnt work.. If you know some HB 10s go for them instead.. I had a similiar situation before I even knew about this whole community.. I was OBSSESED with a russian girl from school. Everyone wanted her.. I was the first to kiss her " we didnt fuck though" and we kept hanging out .. I pulled pulled pulled she pushed pushed pushed.. EASY formula u push she pull she push u pull lol ! Anyway, try pushing and pulling instead of just being a dick and telling her ur the 3rd best kisser last night To get back to the russian, well I couldnt stop thinking about her until one day i decided to go to a party and just have fun. I hooked up with a really hot girl I knew from before! Week after week of having fun ( not neccesary) anything sexual but just flirting and hanging out I came up to the point that I didnt care where she was and what she is doing and all that crap.. Guess what happened? She sensed that, and called me one night asking if i would like to hang out next day. WE did i fucked her.. Everyone happy Good luck

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read these answers, they are usefull.

Had that thing too. It's terrible one-itis. You say you can't stop thinking of her. Come on, you gotta admit that it is being obsessed with her.
A drug addict can't stop thinking of drugs
An alcoholic can't stop thinking of alcohol
A smoker (sometimes) can't stop thinking of smoking when he/she tries to stop.
A game addict can't stop thinking of gaming.
A sex addict can't stop thinking about sex.

That is, imo, being obsessed with something, because all they think about is that one thing what they believe satisfies them until they stop.

So find another girl, and you will forget this one.

Wall1e has a point to the extent that an obsession can be cured by another obsession. The point is, if you don't want to go after another girl for now (I take breaks all the time, especially if it doesn't work out with my one-itis), just find some other hobby that makes you happy and takes your mind off the issue.

Personally, I tend to spend extra time with friends or get hardcore into video gaming for a week or two until I can take my mind off my one-itis, forgive myself, and move on to another girl happily.

Yeah that's definitely one-itis. It's ok, happens to the best of us. There is little to nothing that you can about this, infact if you do anything you'll probably make it worse

since there's no possible way i can advise you what to do, I'll share some of my experiance as to what you did wrong.

Firstly, you made too much of a relatively small thing. Sure you kissed at a party or two. But women are pretty fickle, there's no reason to believe that it meant as much to her as it did to you.

Also, you tried way way too hard. Why would you say she was the third best kisser? that's not a neg. That's an insult. And that eating pussy? what was that!

You texted and facebooked for 4 months. No, no, no, NO! electrical media kills prospective relationships. Ruthlessly. The only way to make progress with a girl is with direct face time, then it's the real you and the real her. With texting you are only talking to the facade that she has created for herself. Also it creates a level of familiarity that doesn't translate over to real life, this makes it awkward when you finally do talk to her.

Finally, you seriously succumbed to one itis. It's happened to me at least twice so far and the only thing that can end it is time

or anger

You have to think of everything you hate about this girl, you're especially lucky since it sounds like this girl rejected you hard. Why? fucking bitch! there's nothing wrong with you, she's just stone cold. repeat 6-15 times daily

Heh stick your foot in your mouth and your dick in another chicks pussy and you will quickly forget about her. If you know going out drinking makes you send stupid shit to chicks then hand you phone off to your best friend before you get drunk and tell them to give it to you tomorrow.

Oh Birdboy, what the hell are you doing??

Whoever recommended to you to say those things, do not listen to them again EVER.

That is literally the WORST advice/strategy I have ever come across in the 5+ years I have been involved in the seduction scene and I once met a dude who would go up to girls in nightclubs and put their hands on his crotch without even introducing himself, I shit you not.

High risk game? 'I am want to eat your pussy but I think you have been out and about' WTF that is not high risk game that is fucking disgusting what world do you live in where you think a girl would respond postively to that? Did you really expect her to just turn around and say 'I thought you would never ask, I've been thinking about sucking your cock all night, lets fuck'

NO, there was only ever ONE outcome for that. Stop playing these stupid games and concentrate on making yourself a much cooler, more attractive guy. Nothing about your behaviour that I have read here has been cool or attractive. It has all been creepy and weird.

Not only did you drive this girl away but you deeply insulted her on multiple levels. If you werent so clueless I would chastise you for being such an asshole to her.

Wake up call mate, you need to re-evaluate your entire approach to game because at the rate you are going one of these girls is going to murder you.

If you want specific advice on how to repair your horrible game then shoot me a PM and I will help you.

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fucking hell man... im back to square one. i know i won't be meeting another girl for a long while..and thats what fucks me off so much

i know, i did fuck up, ive fucked up about 6 other times previously, i always get jealous, needy and all that stupid shit.

i was so fucking close, and everyday it still haunts me that i was so close, and i dont feel sad, i feel pissed off at myself. i dont sit around listening to depressing songs, she was the only girl i knew. now have litterally NO lady friends AT ALL. i previously lost them all due to one bitch, and now i have no girls i can communicate with at home, none i can meet up with whenever i want to.

the only girls i know now are afew at school, and i have no intention to escalate there

i think im pretty good looking guy...i do modeling and all that shit..and that fustrates me further, that im sitting here all day doing fuck all. i dont like going out at night, thats somthing i'll get over in time, but how am i suppose to keep up a relationship with a party girl like that?

everytime i see a hot girl lets say on tv, i get horny, and the girl who rejected me is the only girl i picture in my mind

i came into the game to get a girlfriend, someone who cant stop texting me, someone who i can talk without worrying of being portrayed as needy and just ultimatley be myself.

sometimes i dont even give a shit about the sex, i cant remember the last time my parents said i love you, or anyone for that matter, i just want to be loved.
its what i thrive for.

this is a side of me that only i know, and me talking about it may help me. on the outside, im alpha and cocky funny as fuck, and people love me for that.

ive contemplated suicide afew times, but i couldnt do that to my mother.

ive just turned 17...this shit is killing me...ive started to pray...im an atheist, ive cried at night...now what do i do?

BirdBoy. Listen to me very carefully. Every word.

First...You're 17. You're very young. You have an entire life before you. You'll most likely go to university. Meet new people...etc. Don't do anything stupid(and I'm not just talking about suicide...people tend to go real crazy when they're this desperate)

Second... I'm literally astonished by the information that she's the only girl you know. This is no good. This should be your priority to change as soon as possible.

Third... Party girls... You really think that only the "party girls" go out at night? That's a foolish thing to believe. Most of the people I know go out occasionally, and they're really not the party-type. Everyone needs to relax and let go once in a while. That's what parties are for, and that's exactly what you should do too. And another thing is...what's wrong with party girls? You know...many of them are really good people. Not nearly all of them are crazy attention whores who make out with every dude on the dancefloor. In fact... I think that's the minority.

Fourth...Don't be pissed at yourself. You're a human being. "Errare humanum est" as latin says it. It means that making mistakes is a human thing. How else could you learn? Mistakes exist to teach us lessons. I repeat...you're 17. The odds of this girl to be your wife even if you hadn't fucked up this time are ridicolously low. But when the time will come, there's one less mistake you'll commit. You're 1 step closer to your future wife!

Fifth...Almost all of us have come to the game because of either one particular girl, or that we wanted a girlfriend. You're not alone bro.

Sixth... You say you want to be your true self. It's a natural thing. I'm sure there's literally nothing wrong with your true personality. What is wrong is how you express it. Let me get into more details about this...

A personality is a really confusing term to define. People tend to associate EVERYTHING someone does with it. And it's natural because how else could we judge? We can't read minds. You think your true self is the needy guy who was rejected. And you think that your cocky and funny self who people like is just a mask. This is wrong. You're both, and none. This will be hard to explain...

It's all about conditioning. You were conditioned socially to be needy. This was amplified by the lack of feeling of being loved in your life. That was the first conditioning. Then you found out how you should act, and you started conditionning yourself towards it. And you feel that you're losing yourself. But you're not. It's the opposite. You're learning a new way to express yourself, that's all. You can't fake something you're not. I mean... you really can't. You can't act cocky and funny at all, if this is not internally part of you. People wouldn't acknowledge you as a fun person if you were not that, this is really something that you just can not fake, I can't stress this enough sorry.

That's for your self-image issues, now the next one is the love part. It's natural you want to feel being loved. Everyone wants that. But you should know that romantic love is fragile. You can't rely on that. What is strong is friendship, and family. Your parents love you, even if they don't say it. I'm sure about it. They care about you. They raised you up, they gave you home, they attended you to school and I'm sure that if you wanted, they'd listen to you. Talk to them. I'd recommend your mother. I know it's hard to swallow pride and that you feel like you have to rebel at your age, but that's the best thing right now you can do. Talk to your mother and tell her what happened and that you're feeling very down. She'll know what to do...that's what mothers always know.

Also... I bet you have some friends other than girls. I mean... real friends not just the guys you hang out with. It's the perfect time for them to show how much they care about you. Go out with them. Have a drink, or watch some badass action movie...whatever. Just do something instead of thinking over this and killing yourself from the inside.

About that praying thing...you know I'm an atheist as well. And I'm telling you that Christians don't know how hard it is to be an atheist that is not just an atheist because it's cool, but who gives a fuck. Christians have a God who they can turn to. He will listen to them every time there's something wrong. It would be coward to call God forth if you're an atheist so now it's your choice. Do you accept him as a God or not? Do you believe that he cares for you, and listens to you, but expects you to take him as eternity itself? There's no in-between choice... But you know...if you don't want to turn to God, you can turn to a priest. They're good people...and educated. And people go to them with their issues on a daily basis. A priest will listen to you, and he might even give you some advice.

That's the best I could do for you. I hope you get better soon. Hard times are upon everyone once in a while... It's just how life is.

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Birdboy, let this be a lesson to you, that being devoted to a girl too much will crack you up.

And everything what mynameisfisher says is right, even i have the problem of being needy. But believe me, if you think it's fun when 1 girl can't stop texting you, what about 3 or 4 girls who can't stop texting you (on SPAM i'm talking, or else i would have to spent 100 euro's a month on texting:P).
I'd say, try it out! I never thought it could be that fun!

Btw, i'm 18 years old myself, and i don't have that much female friends myself. So what?, you can meet up many other chicks. There are 7 billion people on the globe, and let's say 50% is female, more then enough choice right?

I believe in the fact that everyone can change, and i believe that you can change as well! TBH, my inner game isn't good yet, but still i believe in myself that one day i have so much self-esteem that even the biggest problems will not affect me too hard anymore!!.

17 is a tough age, it was a tough age for me too and like you I also contemplated suicide at one point but I didn't go through with it and thank fuck for that because my life got a whole lot better after 17, I got better, I developed some confidence, good things started happening to me.

You seem to have a very sheltered perspective on girls which is to be expected at your age, it's not so black and white, there are not good girls and bad girls there is a whole lot of in between.

If you don't know any other girls then only you can fix that, what do you think the chances are of a bunch of hot girls just rocking up at your doorstep wanting to get to know you? Very slim my friend. You need to actually be in it to win it, you need to put yourself out there if you want to meet girls.

Also, what is wrong with the girls at your school? Are you afraid of looking stupid if you try and talk to them?

If that's the case then I have news for you mate, you will never get better if you don't look stupid at least a couple of times, it is all about the learning process, you can't get life experience from a book.

The BEST thing you could be doing right now is chasing after as many girls as you can wherever you can, because every rejection you suffer, you come out a bit stronger and wiser everytime, so long as you learn to take rejection constructively and not wallow in self pity like you are doing now.

You need to take this incident with this girl for what it is, an AWESOME learning opportunity. You do science right? Think of it like a case study, think to yourself what did I do wrong? What could I have done better? These answers will help make you a cooler more attractive guy, this experience was a GOOD thing because your learning can potentially be fast tracked as a result.

If you fix your attitude and start thinking about this in an optimistic light and start setting some realistic goals for yourself, then you could easily surpass the biggest Player's at your school, you know why? Because you have had to work for it and you have learned more on the way up from rockbottom than they ever will.

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^^^^^^This.

Also...let me tell you my story. Probably it would help you just a little. I was raised to be the ultimate chump. When I was 4 years old I was already able to read fluently and even knew numbers. By the time I got to school I could multiply and solve equotations no shitting. What do you thik I looked like? A freak. Did this stop in high school? Nooo... it just got worse. When I was 11 I was socially so awkward that I was afraid to go to take a shit in school. Do I have to tell you how this ended? I spent 8 more years in school with those people... You could imagine my chances there. I met my first girlfriend when I was 18. At a party. (she also wasn't the party-girl type btw...)

We spent 9 months together, altough it took me 7 to bed her. Even though she was a virgin, that's a ridicolously long time... We fucked twice and I never came because both of were so inexperienced. So she was my first girlfriend whom I really loved. And last autumn we broke up. I was not quite myself for a week. But I got a hold on myself and started focusing on better things. My studies...my friends...and most importantly...FUN. I had some ONS but not too much and I also found out that those are not really for me, I prefer LTRs. This summer I hooked up with this really awesome girl, and we've been together ever since.

You see bro... You're not the only one who comes from deep. I was already 19 when I lost my V. Now, with a year and few montsh past, I'm having the best sex ever. It will come mate! Just don't give up. Believe us, the hard work WILL pay off.

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first post was utterly pathetic

wtf is going on

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