I got this problem

I got a divorce two years ago. And I have not tried to use condoms until recently with this girl who insisted on it. I was really shitty about the whole thing. Like I just hated it. Sex ended up really bad.

So what can I do here. I can not feel her when I were condoms. Like when I am No condom I can feel the wetness and tell what she likes.

When I got a condom on a part of me is turned off. I can not feel nearly as much. I can not tell what she likes. And I am just like I wanna cummmm.. This attitude change makes me really shitty and crappy at sex.

What is a homie to do..

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Maybe buy a thinner condom LifeStyles has some good ones and stop thinking of it as sex and start thinking of it as you pleasing her. 90% of this is mental.

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

by the way, just earn her trust. Bang her a few times with a condom, and when she feels like you are someone who can be trusted and doesn't have an STD, then you can bang her without condom.

I agree with Jsmooth: 90% is mental. Try to have amazing sex when one of you is depressed, i dare ya:P

when younger, I couldn't get used to the johnnies myself. but I did, eventually. since I don't have a girlfriend, I find myself having sex with random girls every so often and therefore couldn't even picture it without wearing a condom. at this stage - would feel awkward without. although it is much easier for me to go multiple times without the rubber.
try and get used to it - even if it means knocking one out with a condom on.

and if you're worried about girls feeling things - try one of them kinkier ones and if you pick the right one, I'm sure your missus will get her share of pleasure!

It is all mental. I just got to get the vibrating condoms or cock bands. It will make me feel like I am doing a little more.

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Don't forget the ones, that helped make me, the man I like becoming!

Glad to see there is at least one client. I tried out vibrating condoms and it was the weirdest and most uncomfortable thing.

However, condoms shaped differently are good (like with bumps on the glans).

So the part that is in my head is this belief!!!

I can not cum with a condom on because I can not feel as much!

How can I make her cum if I can not even feel as much!


How do I over cum. or just not worry about the cum lol.

Ill take the advice to wack it in a condom, thats cool.

Any more wisdom??

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Don't forget the ones, that helped make me, the man I like becoming!

Sex toys don't feel anything, but they make her cum. You should be able to tell what she likes by the sounds she makes and how her body moves - not to mention foreplay will normally result in her having at least one orgasm.

Update to my condom situation.

I used 4 condoms with this girl and I think I am getting my stroke back. lol

To help her I bought this dildo a little one. Its supposed to be a anal dildo. But she is not down with that. So I gave her a clitoral orgasm. That was cool, it helped my ego out.

I think the issue is mine I own that! I have a desire to make a women cum with my dick. Desire to please... Fucking condoms seem so fake in my head. I get weird during sex when the condom time comes. I also do not get as hard as I used to when I was young.. I will admit that.

Being aware of this, helps me ignore my issue. Thx for the help I love this forum.

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Don't forget the ones, that helped make me, the man I like becoming!

might be a mental thing, but what could also help is using slightly bigger condoms, as the regular sized ones often feel like they're choking the life out of one's "egg-plant". and when cumming it feels like most of the load stays in the dick

So I bought a 12 pack and its going strong for me. I still think it is not nearly as hot. And I do not think there is any argument here. I got this vibrator for girls asses and I am getting a little more kinky as I get older... I just use the Trojan mixed pack. I am over using them the mental block was all temporary.

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Don't forget the ones, that helped make me, the man I like becoming!