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I want my ex back. Ive read everything online and have been debating this for months, I have accepted its over and shes with someone else. But I really want her back and have to try one last time. I think that I have fucked this all up though. I will try and give you the short version.
We met a few years ago, started dating and went offcial. To be completely honest I treated her like shit at the beginning - and done a few things that I am not proud of. we broke up a few times and got back together - everything was sorted out and we stayed together. We moved in together, after a while we got a dog. Before she left she started distancing herself (I didnt notice at the time).
when she left she said too many things had happened and she couldnt deal with it. She asked for space so I didnt contact her, when she came to ge her stuff i was out, and despite telling her I wanted to see her, she asked me not to, so i didnt which i regret (I wanted to respect her wishes). After a couple of weeks she asked me to block her on FB, so she couldnt check my profile and see who i was with etc. After a couple of weeks I found she was dating some other guy (which is probably why she asked me to block her). After a while she sent me quite a sincere email saying she broke it off with him, it was a rebound and he wasnt like me. She said she wasnt coming back as much as hse wished we could have worked it out and that she will probably always love me. After a while I decided to contact her again and ask to see her. I just got a message back after the day had passed saying "i wouldnt have met you, I am with someone and im really happy, I hpe you find happiness too". I got over this then a month os so later went for a drive and seen her walking with her someone. This destroyed me. After another while I contacted her and got quite a nasty reply saying let me tell you this in a way you will understand, im with someone Im happy and in love with (along with alot of other things).
Now we avoid eachother areas, we only share one group of friends and dont turn up when other is there etc. Infact we havent seen eachother since she left. She told me once that she looked at old photos of us and was up all night crying etc.
Now can I stil get her back?? i dont think I can because
I have been needy in messages to her since we broken up
She quite happily told me I was an asshole and the rebound dude made her see how much of an asshole I was.
She had a rebound and is now in another relationship (which sounds happy)
I treated her like hell in the beggining.
She agreed to stay away from a party we were both invited to (but I think that was for my benefit)
I usually quite good a working people out - I really think its dead, for various reasons.
If we would have seen eachother before she got with her new man, I think it would have brought feelings back to the surface with her, now she is with someone else im not so sure.
She has blocked me on FB, my email addy, we dont have eachother numbers (and our shared groupt would have to ask her which she would decline), I dont know where she lives and have only seen her that once since the breakup. The only way I can contact her is to email her from another address.
Guys I know most of the advice will be to grab my balls and get over it. but I want to be with this girl for the rest of mylife. What can I say in a message that I havent already? I was just going to tell her she is the one for me, i want to see her and try to elict soem old emotions. I dont want to play and games at all
PS. I have done everything to get over this girl and it doesnt work.
At least if I can be sure she gets a message - at least I can say everything and know I done all I can.
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