Ok so thigs girl i talk to is ging on and on (online) about herbf beingaway and missing him and shit for the last month.. Its getting tiresome.. and she is the type to either have a btich shield or fall into game easily.. I just started giving her o... and k... and she keeps talking and she noticed and asked whats wrong blah blah etc. I said nothing. But in otherwrods she wans someone to talk to and has rarely but she did ask me to talk to her when she was stressed (i am always the one to initiate conversation) ... now what shoudl i do to get this crap to move forwad or decide to drop it and frgt it all...

and how do you get a meet up with someone who is always busy.... IF they really are.. is there any way to find out if they really arent so you can just not waste time..

ok look man, the thing is, you are not being honest, and leading, obviously if you are sitting there listening to a bunch of shit you don't want to hear, guess who has frame control? (the answer is not you), if you don't have the frame, you are not leading the interaction, she talks about her bf, this might sound crazy but maybe you should speak up and say,

hey listen, I don't care about your boyfriend, lets talk about something else, then change the subject,

as for a girl being busy, it is bullshit, no one is busy all the time, that is what is called a flake (her way of lightly brushing you off with excuses so she doesn't have to face any real tension)

they way you deal with this is make the benifits for a meetup greater for her then the risks and negatives (in other words, be better looking, more awesome, make her more comfortable with the idea, make the meetup something she wants to do, and get her to agree it is a good idea, all these things can help)