I asked my GF to come over yesterday and she said why not come over to my place cos she's tired. I told her i'd call her at about 5ish in the afternoon. She has 2 phone numbers, #1 that she uses most of the time, and #2 very rarely. I call her on #1 as usual, twice, no answer. She calls back 5 hours later from #2, at 10 in the evening being all like "what happened, you said you'd call". Weird because she'd always call in like 5-10 minutes afterwards if she'd miss my calls. I told her that i did on #1, confronted her that she's not a good liar because nobody doesn't check his phone for goddamn 5 hours. She's like "what i didn't see blah blah", like she couldn't find her words.

So i gave her the cold shoulder, acted all distant and cold, told her that i'm going to bed and told her good night. Very distant and cold. She was silent all the time, seemed flabbergasted and like she couldn't find her words again. Didn't yell, didn't go overboard, very calm and relaxed, though very cold.

She's never given me any reason to doubt her or her actions, so this is weird. Maybe i overreacted as she hasn't really done anything wrong, but i don't fucking find this normal at all. I haven't called her yet and she hasn't, so my questions are:

1. I'm planning on freezing her for a while, is that wise or should i initiate contact ? Or should i just brush it off ? I

2. Seriously, who the fuck doesn't check his phone for 5 hours, especially when you know you're gonna get called ? I mean even if she wasn't actually cheating on me, it's not fucking cool.

3. There are a lot of guys calling her, guys wanting to date her and it's bothering me. SHould i tell her this ? I mean i can't tell her to stop talking to people.

Why don’t you go talk to her? And tell her you are not satisfied with how things are going. You guys are in relationship, so talking is important.

I think you are blowing this out of proportions , yes 5 hours but instead of confronting her , I would punish her , her bad behavior, with 8 hours of non contact. And wouldn’t confront her, if it was only ONE time I don’t see why all the frustration.

1- Why are you going on a non contact just because she didn’t answer you in 5 hours?

2- Man, who the hells now the reason, maybe she fell asleep, maybe she was fucking another guy, or perhaps she was mad with you for something and that was her way of revenge of some sort. I wouldn’t give much importance if it was only one time, or perhaps you are just too needy and and you are suffocating her.

3- Yeah go confront her, tell her also she cant leave the house. The less you care the best. Yes she has guys over her so don’t be bother with that. Just embrace the fact that they are trying and you are fucking.

Advice: I would spend less time txting and calling.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Thank you for the reply.

It happened again a while back (2 weeks or so), she said she forgot/lost her phone at her cousin's house (which is 2 minutes away from her), didn't reply for like 4-5 hours.

The freeze part was because i feel like i've been making myself too available and yes, probably i've been too suffocating.

She called me 2 hours ago, asked me if i'm mad. I told her no that i don't have any reason to, but we have to talk. She said that she's going to the gym today from 6 to 7:30 and we agreed upon meeting tomorrow. I call her at 6:10, no answer. Both numbers. Calls me back 10 minutes later, says she's in bed. Couldn't be arsed to go to the gym. Seriously, i'm either paranoid or there's some dodgy shit going on.

I also know that the less you care the better you're off. It's just that i broke my feelings button, can't switch it off.

I'm thinking of asking her straight out of she's cheating on me.

Confronting her that way will gain you nothing.

Tell her that her flake behavior is messing up the relantioship and if it continues like this you are calling quits. Why the hell she flake your earlier appointement.

Dont ask if she is cheating or not lol.

Try and have a new hobby. I think you are too needy at moment.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

dude,
first of all don't let ANYTHING she does fuck you up or affect you. Even if it does just don't show it. Fake it. You are a mountain, nothing breaks your frame.
Why are you putting so much value on a phone call?
I know you are pissed off because she didn't pick up her phone and she ' SAID ' she would. Women don't know what the fuck they say, they act on emotions.

To punish your woman simply withdraw attention.
Focus your energy on HOBBIES, WORK , YOUR CAREER and other WOMEN.
But don't make it look like you are TRYING to ignore her. Put her in the dark for a while so she can think about her actions.

Don't go on a hissy fit and act like a beta bitch, brush it off and WITHDRAW attention.

Sure, You are in a relationship and you MUST draw the line when abselutely nessesary.

Yep happened again, worse this time. Was supposed to call her yesterday for her to come over. Did so twice, no answer, no callback. Like i said, she usually called me at least once or twice a day, haven't heard from her since Friday.

Should i call her again ? Also, is it AFC to ask her why she didn't call back ? (not admonish, just ask for a reason out of curiosity).

Move on...

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Right. But still, is it AFC to ask her why she didn't call back ?

First of all, you overreacted big time, but I can't say I wouldn't have done the same - hindsight is a beautiful thing. Yes it's AFC to ask, if you ask then you're giving HER the frame control, very bad thing to do! You're lucky to have gotten 1-2 phone calls a day, my girlfriend NEVER calls me just for a chat! It's only WEIRD if she is being inconsistent for no reason and it doesn't sound like that's the case. You jumping to the conclusion that she was lying is basically you saying "I'm needy, insecure and I also don't trust you". This provided the reason for her behaving in this erratic manner.

She's not cheating on you! Sometimes people are just fucking idiots, sometimes they just find it a massive chore to have to talk to someone. You're losing control fast!
Freeze her by going out and doing your own stuff, and start exploring other options (i.e. girls). Sometimes you are dealt a hand, and it doesn't matter how you play your cards because you were never in a position to win anyway.

i would have dumped her a week ago

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I repeat and say it again. Move on... Ok flaking you one time. Flaking alot of times and dont gave you a reason, she is immaturity little girl, who doesnt respect you enough.

First time you were overeacting this is just plain childish, this games will only escalate.

End with her, so you can go out a explore other options,not while you are in relantioship.

Btw who cares if its afc or alpha move, you have the right to know why she is acting with such immaturity, its relantioship for some reason you need to talk with her.

Maybe she has a valid reason(which I doubt), if you arent satisfied with what you said, you end up the relantioshiip and never call her back or even respond to her, thats is your alpha move.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!