So i get told by many hbs that im a realy good listener but im unaware of how i am one, Iv not read how to be one im not aware of it.

Im guessing it comes natural to me which is a good thing because girls like it supposedly but im intrested in finding out what makes a good listener
how can i improve it to make it that much better might aswell perfect the things im already decent at.

I have no idea at all what it involves when i connect with a girl i just have a conversation dont try do anything special to be honest aint it impossible to not be a good listener i mean all you have to do is let someone speak and listen anyone who can hear properley should have no problem at all with this but iv heard people do maybe its actually a skill im not sure but if anyone wants to clear it up an give me some info on it will be appreciated

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You are good listener. Is that skill set, done you any good with Hbs?

Meaning you are good guy for her to talk.

You are going on to friend zone fast.

I had a discussion one time with some hbs, talking about a guy who is a friend of ours, and he is really good listening to girls,ALL GIRLS think he is adorable go to cofees with him even girls he just met, he just invites them to cofee and they accept , but he never closes, they never see him as potencial male. He sends a so low afc vibe, that he is like his gay friend.

So those hbs was telling me , he had no luck because he wasnt hot. But if it was me, I would probably had alot of girls with that strategie.

And I told them he wasnt hot because he was a teddy bear, why me I simply dont care. Because challenge is what makes me interesting and then atractive

Maybe it worked for you, but I dont believe it.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Being a good listener is ALWAYS a positive quality when trying to pick up women. Being timid and letting them bulldoze you over isn't. If you read 60yoc, he goes into how you can be a seductive listener, this works wonders, as you don't even have to say anything!

Well with girls im very filthy minded an i use to let them walk all over me so maybe i picked it up from my afc days. When i was there when there bf was shagging some other bird you know the story

Im usually in bed or already fclosed them when they say it. im not to bad with hbs i have a huge social circle full of 9s an a couple of 10s.
But i prefere finding new girls than in my group i just like the going over there an chatting filth to them an i enjoy meeting new people.

I scare some girls away with my potty mouth but some love it i think all of them secretley do.

It happens randomley but with the same girl i can act the funny guy at times an also the serious guy. i dont intend it to happen but each conversation seems to go a differnt route sometimes i am a quite guy where i just can not be arsed talking to them much but iv not had this for a while an iv trying so hard to cut it out of my personality an its working.

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