This is for anyone like me that finds approach anxiety gets in the way too much, and doesn't have the drive to overcome it. So instead of approaching, you find yourself just letting the opportunity pass by because it's so much easier and less stressful.

Last year I was at home. My mate had got some really hot girls number last week and was going round her house tonight! I was justsitting at home with my SPAM playing computer games and was like "I have to get laid tonight now." Knowing my best mate was getting some hot girl that night got me motivated. Anyway this isn't the motivation I'm talking about (although it's probably an interesting point).

What happened next was...I made my SPAM come out with me. It was already 12.30am and we got to the club at 1am, and it closed at about 3am! Maybe this increased my motivation even more too, but this is still not the motivation I'm talking about (although in this regard, maybe going to clubs late is good for motivation because you're more aware of how little time you have).

When I got to the club I saw a hot girl outside in the smoking area. She looked at me a couple of times and so I just walked over. I've not approached girls in the past hardly at all so I was nervous walking up and didn't know what the hell I was gonna say (I dont learn routines or anything), but when I got there I just said whatever came to mind. My brain suddenly realised that I either talk or she'll think Im a fucking weirdo, so it kinda just kicked in.

Anyway, basically I had sex with this girl that night, and she became my girlfriend for the next 6 months. And that was her first one night stand (well technically it wasnt a one night stand but at the time we didnt know if we would see each other again).

I could have seen the girl but not had the balls to approach and I suspect a lot of people have this feeling. Anyway, if I didn't then I WOULDNT HAVE HAD A SIX MONTH RELATIONSHIP with a 9/10.

Now, every time I see a girl that is hot it's like I am standing at that club again at 1am a year ago, wondering whether I should approach that girl that became my girlfriend.

Every girl that you see in the street and think "she's too hot for me" or "Ill just get blown off", think what WOULD/COULD have been.

Literally, every hot girl you DONT approach, there was anywhere between a 5-50% chance (varies depending on how much game you have...not sure what the exact figured would be) that YOU HAVE JUST MISSED OUT ON A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER!!

Even if it was 5% because your game needs improving...pass up 20 approaches and that is literally like passing up a relationship!

That hot girl that you saw walking down the street or in the supermarket a few weeks ago...what would you be doing with her right now if you had approached? Maybe nothing...but maybe you'd be round hers cuddling up in her bed or on the sofa for the 5th night this week feeling so glad that you managed to grow the balls to approach her.

I think Braddock has said "The weight of rejection is ounces, but the weight of regret is tons." A bit corny, but sums it up nicely.

I have to admit dude,this was inspiring. Thank you

Props for the post. People need to realise that they miss 100% of the shots they don't take. I had the same experience. I approached a girl on a club (about 1 year ago). We dated for about 1month. We didn't have any relationship, but it was a lot of fun having a girl that you can pass time with and have sex. Even if we stoped dating, we still are friends, she introduced me to some of her friends and I k-closed her friend once.

"Just do it".

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fuck ya dude. ".pass up 20 approaches and that is literally like passing up a relationship! " dam str8 u gtta hustle that quote treally truly is inpiring.


im (Was ) hte same way. whenever a saw a hot girl or really, jst a girl who i knew was checking me out, i grew a habit of looking way or just like feeling very shy and nverous when i was evr really even in their presence. i mean, i was literally walking thru the hallways of my high school with my head down ... because i did not want any1 to seet he tears in my eyes... i cudnt help it. my eyes just naturally started tearing wheni was around hella girls cuz i alwys felt super nervus and like "ALL THE ATTENTION IS ONE ME like everyones looking at me " and i was super self concious ... SELF CONCOIus.

and guess what... now i can walk up to whoever i want, ask them whatever i want, and get what i want (maybe ) because its what your saying dude... once you REALISE that u live once, but even just that practice only MAKES U BETTER, its that confidence in knowing you can do what you want to do ... it feels so good , so strong, inner game is what its about.

i realziied that by practicing. slowly facing my fear , nervousness. took a while, but practice will work wonders my friend

peacee stay up homiess

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Just want to brinig this old thread up again cos I have a new girlfriend now and it makes me think how much you are missing out on each approach opportunity you don't take, or indeed any opportunity you dont take that may result in meeting someone (eg. opportunities to go to a party, opportunities to facebook a girl you met the other night)

I met my current girl friend at a party and several things make me feel how important it is to make use of every opportunity:

1) What if I didn't go? (I wasn't going to go to the party but decided last minute 'WTF, what's to lose')
2) What if I didnt talk to the girl who is now my girlfriend?
3)What if I didnt ask her back to the party? She left the party early and she was with some friends that I knew. So I left with them and she went into her house accross the road and the people I knew went home. I knocked on her door and said she should come back to the party (which she obviously did). She even said "who are you?" when she opened the door lol
4)What if I didnt have the balls to facebook her? I didnt get her number at the end of the night but, after deliberation, added her on facebook and started messaging her.


If any of these things hadnt of happened then I wouldnt be with the girl that Im totally in love with right now!

At stage I thought to myself:

A) What have I got to lose?/What's the worst that could happen?
ANSWER: nothing. At worse feeling embarrassed if I said something stupid or if she thought I was a stalking for knocking on her door.

B) What have I got to gain?/What's the best that could happen?
ANSWER: A fucking relationship! Or (depending on my wants at the time), a fuck buddy.


So...looking back it seems clearer to me how you shouldnt miss out on any opportunities AT ALL.


For more inspiration on this topic I'm thinking the film "Yes Man" is a good one to watch. Also watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DVab9jj0 ... se&list=SL (Its Derren Brown: The Experiements: The Secret of Luck (Episode 4)

Great post, but seriously man I'm gonna have to call bullshit on this one. A bit of post-op ASD by the sounds of it. I think she probably realised she liked you more than just a root and was backpeddling so you didn't think she was a slut. I've had a few girls say this to me only to find out down the track that they've had at least a few ONS before.

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