Hey guys, I've a read a lot of the stuff on here but am very very new to the community... never posted before but I have a lot of respect for what people do on here and have definitely used some of the stuff I've read.

Long story short I've been with a good number of girls, half of em were even decent looking. BUT I've never had a girlfriend (24 yo), largely because girls are really really annoying - which I know sounds like a "inner-game" issue... but it's not... plenty of girls that I've hooked up with have wanted to take things further but it wasn't gonna happen.

SO - last Friday I got shitfaced and f-closed an HB9, we woke up on her living room couch and neither of us remembered the other one's name... but we got a long really well for the hour it took me to find my wallet and cell phone which were randomly scattered around her apartment...

I end up taking her out Sunday night for drinks, again we get along really well- she is admittedly "a dude trapped in a girl's body" which is literally what I've been looking for (feel free to call me gay for this). We banged a bunch again... sex was great... she seems like she might be a bit of a sloot all things considered but either way I want to at least TRY and make this more meaningful haha- Any advice?

Do I just keep doing the hookup thing while mixing in some date-ish activities (dinner and all that) and wait for her to ask "so... what are we?" ?

Or do I got at it more directly? If so how?

Again, I can't stress how different this girl is- she does not need to have her hand held... like you could make jokes about having sex with her mom and call her the c-word and she would either laugh it off or make fun of you back...


THANKS!!!

Hot chick who's a bro... you lucky guy. Keep doing what your doing. I think your over thinking everything don't worry about potential conversations and popping the question. Just keep making plans with her and having a good time and you'll just naturally start being exclusive.

Yeah agree with cornflake. I'm not great with relationships to be honest, don't get into many and tend to either be completely emotionally unattached or far too attached for my own good. Need to work on that middle ground!

But for what it's worth, my advice would be to keep doing what you are doing. Don't try and ask questions or "define" you or anything like that. That's asking for trouble.

I think you've got the right idea too - keep it cool and with a sort of "hooking up" vibe, but chuck in more and more "date type stuff" as well (without getting too needy and all that). When on your dates try and build even more comfort.

I'm not a massive romantic when it comes to "love" and all this - I think if a girl is attracted to you it's all to do with comfort. If she's not comfortable with you at all, you're getting nothing. If she's quite comfortable you might get laid. If she's really, really comfortable, that's where the relationship might work out. Other than levels of comfort, I don't think there's much difference in how you should act to be honest.