Sorry this is a long post
Hi i know this forum is mainly for guys but i would really appreciate if u cud help me out as my head is melted. i work with this guy, have done for over a year and theres always been a huge connection but i had a bf.when i split with my bf about 3 months ago things started happening with me and this guy, its amazing the chemistry, how well we get on, everything jus feels perfect. the problem is he says hes not ready for a relationship. we said we'd give it a go but then he changed his mind after a wk he had acted all strange that wk and wouldnt meet up wit me he says that it wont end well because we wrk together n that he hates been associated with anyone and that he's lousy at being a bf cos hes selfish. But everytime we are out together we end up kissing and he stays over nite but he doesnt want to have sex with me we do other stuff like he goes down on me etc and is ectremely afectionate towards me but he says he cares too much about me to have sex with me bcos hes not ready for a relationship and he knows he;ll hurt me if we just have a one night stand and he says in the future he'd like to be able to give it a proper chance and if we have sex now that wont happen.and i know he cares about me he'd do anything for me.i offered to give him head the other morning and he wouldnt take it either cos he said it would be too serious and he doesnt want me thinking hes taking advantage.we went out for lunch then and spent the whole day together and had an amazing fun time. I would just like to know what i should do, should i put an end to it completely cos its not going anywhere. or do you think it will go somewhere? and do you think hes telling the truth or that theres sumother reason. I dont want to sound arrogant but im attractive and he says he thinks im incredibly sexy and hot so just incase u thought that was the problem its not. i just like him so much n i cant work out why if u really liked sumone and everything was so gud with them that u wudn give it a shot?

If you're hot to me it seems it would not be difficult at all for you to find someone else. I think that's the best advice you can get. Even if you still want him, the easiest way will be to start dating someone else (jealousy plotline is really good).

Thanks for your reply, i have been asked out a few times recently but i feel like i cant see anyone else because i dont want to hurt his feelings and then i'm worried that he will start seeing other girls too and that would kill me.

What have you got going for you other than your looks?

don't get this wrong.. but did you ever see him fully naked and/or notice him having an erection? because him getting down on you or sleeping in the same bed is a bit vague...
not saying he's gay; there might be other sensitive issues he's not ready to reveal yet.
could be a conscience thing..guys can be very complex "creatures" too.
if u got patience , then you might want to give him some more time..
otherwise just toss him on the bed, pull off his pants in a frenzy and give him head and possibly more ... should he initially say: "no..don't..."(or similar) but gets a hard-on, it's green lights for you to furiously "exploit" him. don't worry that this willl make you look like a slut.. if necessary, tell him you didn't dream of being capable of such a thing before, (that you never did that before) but "it" drove you nuts and you couldn't think of another way to make clear to him.. how badly you wanted (more of) him.